Twelve Traps in Today's Marriage and How to Avoid Them

By Brent A. Barlow

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• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0875790399
• ISBN13: 9780875790398
• Release Date: January 1986
• Publisher: Shadow Mountain
• Length: 209 Pages
• Weight: 1.10 lbs.

Customer Reviews

This book may reduce your marriage counseling expenses

This book does an excellent job of describing some of the destructive habits, expectations and mistakes (the twelve traps) many couples slip into. The book also suggests how to get out of the twelve traps. If your marriage is in trouble, this book may help you discover which of the "twelve traps" are harming your marriage and how you can get out of the traps. · THE TIME TRAP: An inadequate amount of time to maintain or improve a marriage. · THE TRADITION TRAP: The insistence that marriage today must be as it was in the past. · THE TOGETHERNESS TRAP: Too little or too much identity and bonding as a married couple. · THE TENDERNESS TRAP: The inability or unwillingness of spouses to be kind, loving, or tender with each other. · THE TALK TRAP: The inability or unwillingness to do much more than exchange information on a routine basis with a spouse. · THE TYRANNY TRAP: The tendency of one spouse to exercise too much power or control in decision-making. · THE TURMOIL TRAP: The inability to deal constructively with marital conflict. · THE TEMPER TRAP: The inability or unwillingness to control, modify, or eliminate anger in a marital relationship. · THE TENSION TRAP: Participation in too many stress-producing projects or activities. · THE TOUCH TRAP: The absence of touch in a marital relationship other than for routine sexual relationships. · THE TEMPTATION TRAP: Secret or questionable relationships with a member of the opposite sex that can lead to infidelity. · THE TELEVISION TRAP: The viewing of meaningless or improper television programs during hours that could be better used. QUOTES FROM THE BOOK: P3. Working to improve a somewhat less-than-perfect marriage may be far sounder than living under the illusion that we have the ideal marital relationship. P4. C.G. Jung observed, "All those for whom marriage contains no problems are not living in the present." P5. ..."No married couple is immune from divorce or marital failure." THE TIME TRAP P29. marriage... is supposed to be central to our lives, yet we allow less than two percent of our time, if that much, for what is supposed to be the most important human relationship in our lives. P32. ...spend just twenty minutes a day with your spouse in Time, Talk, and Touch.... THE TRADITION TRAP P53. ...you are in the Tradition Trap if you insist that (1) your marriage now must be exactly as it has been in the past; (2) your marriage must be exactly like that of your parents, relatives, or friends; or (3) your marriage has most of the characteristics of the traditional marriage. THE TOGETHERNESS TRAP P59. The one side of the trap is having too little togetherness-a lack of bonding or couple identity. The other equally devastating side of the trap is that we can become too close, too bound together in our marriage. THE TALK TRAP P83. According to the survey what men enjoy most in conversation with friends is freedom, playfulness, camaraderie and practicality. While many women mentioned