Trophy Man: The Surprising Secrets of Black Women Who Marry Well

By Joy McElroy

Book Overview

You're attractive, fun to be around, and accomplished. Life is great. But it would be perfect if you had a partner by your side: a man with brains, ambition, a successful career, and eyes for you only. Problem is, where do you find a brother like that? And how do you make him realize that you're the one he should spend his life with? Drawing on extensive interviews with black women married to top-notch doctors, lawyers, businessmen, athletes, educators, and politicians -- women who've been there and know -- Joy McElroy provides proven methods any woman can use to make a successful match. Always straightforward, always plainspoken, Joy gives you the information you need, including: Where to meet professional African American men How to date with a purpose How much to reveal about past love affairs You don't have to settle Trophy Man is just the secret weapon you need to find a husband with a loving heart.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 074321305X
• ISBN13: 9780743213059
• Release Date: June 2002
• Publisher: Touchstone Books
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.55 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

A Common Sense Guide for Finding Mr. Right

Trophy Man is an interesting read where the author has interviewed women from all walks of life who have married "well" in an attempt to uncover what their "secrets" are. The book is a compilation of the views and advice that the women have for others who are having difficulties snagging a "trophy man." The book gives general, common sense advice for meeting and keeping a man.McElroy's major theme throughout the book is to know yourself and what your needs and wants are before searching for a mate. The book also has etiquette tips for dating, meeting possible in-laws, etc. In addition a list of several prominent African American events are given where professionals are able to meet and socialize.I was impressed with the way the author shows that a "trophy man" is not just a man who has money and prestige, but a man who has a loving heart. The book is an excellent resource for all single women who are in search of a good man.Reviewed by Latoya Carter-QawiyyThe RAWSISTAZ Reviewers

WHAT'S ACTUALLY SURPRISING IS......

...that most of this common sense content had to be mentioned, much less put in print. Classy, yet sassy, Ms. McElroy clearly lays out the techniques, do's and dont's when the goal is a "trophy man." What's most important is that she stresses to us to not lower our standards, tell the men what our expectations are upfront and to carry yourself like the lady you are (or should be at this time). It gives me hope for the future and gives me pointers on how to achieve that dream. Finally, a sister is letting other sisters know that we can aspire to what we truly want and deserve. If you dare to have standards and want to attract a man that is a true one in every sense of the word, then this book is for you. If you still enjoy wasting time w/ the bottom feeders/momma's boys/scrubs/thugs/bums, then leave this book alone: better yet, pass it on to your smarter, enlightened friends. Thanks Ms. McElroy, for such a gift!!!

Loved It!!

Personally, I am not in the market for a husband, but I won't close a door to the possibilities, and this book is a very helpful guide to aid one in that direction. It has 17 secrets in here. My favorites being 2.Make your days as a Single Woman the best days of your life(AMEN!!)some of us are waiting for a man to make those beautiful days for us. Do it for yourself.3. Nurture your spiritual center.Keep God in the loop and pray for that brother. 7.Look like a wife if you want to attract a husband.(you don't see Lil Kim with no husband,don't be dressing like her).She even mentions some of the Fraternal,Professional Organizations and Clubs gathering calendar. I rate it a five because the advice is timely, and it won't hurt and mostly it makes sense. Enjoy the hunt!

A Classic

In the age of "hooking up", "shacking up" and "getting-it-on", Trophy Man is a welcome and timely reminder of how a fully-realized woman on the millenium can meet and marry the man of her dreams. Although written for an Afro-American audience, Dr. McElroy's book crosses all racial lines. A good man is hard to find under any circumstance but Trophy Man provides practical hints to improve the odds. Trophy Man emphasizes that marrying "well" doesn't just mean you have to either marry a doctor, lawyer, rapper or ball player , rather a man who will take care of his business- his family- and you too!!

White Women Have the Trophy Men -- That's the Problem!

That's the whole point of the author writing this book. There are tons of classy, educated black women who would like to marry comparable black men -- but are derided as "golddiggers" and constantly force-fed a "be realistic and lower your expectations" diet -- mostly from black men and magazines like Essence that persist in highlighting "Single Sistas Who Love Themselves" (well duh!) or lesbians who don't care about getting a man period.Of course, basic relationship advice works for people of all colors (plenty of black women bought "The Rules") but the author knew exactly what she was doing by targeting BAP-type black women who would prefer to marry (and not play house with) a black man who doesn't dribble a ball or rap for a living.