Too Wise to Be Mistaken Too Good to Be Unkind

by Cathy Steere

Book Overview

The serious challenges and even griefs which often accompany the presence of an autistic child in a family are well-documented both in medical annals and are all the more imbedded in the memories of... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1930133030
• ISBN13: 9781930133037
• Release Date: August 2005
• Publisher: Grace & Truth Books
• Length: 253 Pages
• Weight: 0.80 lbs.

Customer Reviews

Good Counsel for Wise Parents

I found this book to be extremely encouraging. Like Mrs. Steere, I am a mother to a first-born child with autism. I, too, thought his strange behaviors were "normal" and it took the birth of my second child to begin to see just how challenged my first-born child was/is although I did recognize some of his unusual habits/reactions before then. I experienced many of the same thinking processes, emotions, fears, sadnesses, doubts about my mothering, intentional/unintentional harshness from others and struggles that she relates in this book. We searched and searched for help, spending many years and dollars in the process and reaping a lot of frustration and "hind-sight" wisdom. This book is not a detailed textbook (and I don't think Mrs. Steere intended it to be); it is a parent-to-parent from-the-heart retelling of Mr and Mrs. Steere's journey from pre-birth until they found solid answers and real help for their son's needs. I found times when I could not put the book down!Our family has recently started the same therapy program (NeuroDevelopmental or ND for short) that Mrs. Steere mentions in the latter part of the book. I was quite skeptical at first, since so many other therapies we encountered before had promised my husband and me everything from total cure to elimination of any learning/social/behavior problems and then produced little to nothing. The best of them helped our son's debilitating autistic attributes to decelerate somewhat but did not improve anything. With this ND therapy, we are seeing so many good solid levels of improvement and a lot of that improvement happened within the first 4 to 6 weeks! He is now building upon the earlier improvements. Both my husband and I feel that this particular therapy is the best avenue for him.One of the very best aspects of this therapy (neurodevelopmental) is that each program is tailored to the child's specific needs. If two children in one family are both using this therapy, they will have 2 different programs because they will have different needs. Since autism produces such widely varied inefficiencies and over/under-development in areas of sensory, tactility, occular, hearing, and other areas, having a program that matches the child's needs with the specific therapies to address those needs and ONLY those needs is the most efficient and effective way to approach remediation.One part of Mrs. Steere's book that I really appreciated is the discipline issue as they implimented good discipline and then encountered others who felt they were too strict or felt that children with autism could not be disciplined at all or felt that harsh discipline would solve the whole problem. Since we had encountered all those scenarios as well, I was both encouraged and comforted to continue to train all my children, not just the "typical" ones, in a godly manner, with kindness and love and truth. We found out later, as did the Steeres, that children who have had consistent training and discipline

Review from a Christian, homeschooling mom of autistic son

Too Wise To Be Mistaken; Too Good To Be Unkind is a must-read for all Bibically-minded parents facing the challenge of raising a child with a disability!! It was first recommended to us by our family doctor, and proved to be a turning point in our lives. As a mother of 4 small children, one with autism and mild CP, this book was a God-send. It was the single most helpful and theologically sound book that I have read in my struggle to find appropriate and God-honoring treatment for our son. In this excellent book, I was encouraged to think Bibically about our son, God's provision, treatment options, and our own ability as parents to deal with our son's disabilities. I feel completely confident now that we are ordained by God as parents to make appropriate decsions for our child, and that God's hand and grace are upon His children. That He has given us "all things pertaining to life and godliness.." Therefore, we can find all the answers for how to deal with a disability using Bibical principles, which are so clearly outlined in Cathy Steere's book! In this book, she shares the story of early life with her son Drew~how they parented him (this could be considered a parenting manual as well, in my opinion!), how they found out he has autism, and then their journey through the options available to them. Though Cathy does not promote *one* single way of dealing with a disability, we personally found that the approach she and her husband chose for their own son, has worked for us as well. We used her resource lists found in the book to contact specialists across the country, finally finding "our" specialist for our son Josiah. We homeschool our children, but wondered if our disabled son would fare as well in that environment as oppossed to with the "professionals." After reading Cathy's book and with much prayer and research, we found that we could **indeed** homeschool our son and that he would certainly fare even better than if put in the school environment! Above all, we have become confident in simply thinking Bibically about each trial and decision that comes our way. Knowing God is sovereign, His love abounds to His own children, and that He is sufficient for all our needs, including those regarding our autistic son...these things give us hope and comfort. Too Wise To Be Mistaken; Too Good To Be Unkind was the single most helpful tool in our journey to "leave no stone unturned" in the quest for what is best for our son. God brought it to us at just the right time. I have recommended it to dozens of families. Our family doctor also recommends it to all his patients who have an autistic or disabled child. I cannot recommend this book more highly~~it is a must-read!!!!!!!!!! ~Anna Thorburn

Very Helpful for Parents of Autistic Children

I am a parent of twin daughters in the autistic spectrum and I have read through many books about autism: some clinical, some from a parents perspective. This book was such a breath of fresh air. I am so grateful that Cathy Steere shared her story. Cathy's struggle mirrored mine in many ways. As a parent of autistic children, it is very difficult to know how to discipline and teach them. Many people without autistic children or children at all, claim to be experts in the area of child raising. I tend to listen to other parents who have done the job successfully, who love their children and who hold to a strong faith in God. The Bible does not address autism per se but it does address child raising, it gives examples of wise people and foolish people, and we do have the example of Jesus Christ. I would highly recommend this book to any parent of a child diagnosed as being PDD-NOS, Autistic Spectrum Disorder, or Autism. I trust parents to be able to read Cathy Steere's book and judge for themselves. I don't believe Cathy Steere is an elitist as she is not among the "professional elite" that try to mold and shape public opinion. She is a mother who dearly loves her child and wants to do what's best for him and shared her story so that what she learned could benefit other parents.

A "must-read" for parents of autistic children

Cathy Steere shares in her book how she and her husband, David, coped with -- and then conquered -- her son Drew's autism. Through consistent, prayerful parenting, steadfast routine, and a home-based neurodevelopmental program, the Steere's brought their son out of this most devastating of developmental disabilities. With an occasional touch of gentle humor, Cathy leads us through the tears, fears, and victories in Drew's story. This is a story of faith and the rewards of clinging to God's word and His promises. Most of all, it is a story of hope for all parents, especially those new and not-so-new to a world turned upside down by autism.

Biblical Principles Apply To Every Situation

Too Wise To Be Mistaken, Too Good To Be Unkind is excellent in every way. This emotional story of how the Steeres approached their responsibilities as parents demonstrate how we all should approach our responsibilities -- with the Bible as our guide. They perservered even when the outcome was not as they expected. I believe that Cathy Steere is the expert regarding Drew. But when they consulted "experts", they were told that the structure they had provided was just what he needed. This structure is providing continual progress. One lesson of great encouragement: God equips us for the task He gives.