To Grieve Is to Carry Another Time: A Memoir

By Matthew Salesses

From the critically acclaimed author of The Sense of Wonder and Craft in the Real World comes a deeply personal, poignant memoir, weaving together Salesses' multiple identities: adoptee, Asian American, husband, father, and, finally, widower

Matthew Salesses has spent his career writing about the power of storytelling, but he wasn't prepared for the story of his own life to fall apart. A Korean American adoptee, Salesses grew up unsure of who he was--until he fell in love and started a family with a native Korean, Cathreen. But when Cathreen was diagnosed with stage four stomach cancer, the map they made together suddenly led nowhere. After her untimely death, Salesses realized he would need new paths, new stories, new philosophies, new ways of understanding the world, to navigate the unknown landscape of loss.

To Grieve Is To Carry Another Time is a stunning, thought-provoking meditation on what grief can offer the grieving, illuminating the way to embracing yourself, finding your community, and even loving and changing the world.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0316426016
• ISBN13: 9780316426015
• Release Date: December 2026
• Publisher: Little Brown and Company
• Length: 224 Pages