The Wholehearted Marriage: Fully Engaging Your Most Important Relationship

by Shawn Stoever, Greg Smalley, Dr Shawn Stoever

Book Overview

The Wholehearted Marriage offers practical tools for helping couples keep a passionate connection with one another and understand the role their hearts play in their lives. Drs. Smalley and Stoever... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1416544828
• Release Date: June 2009
• Publisher: Howard Books
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.55 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.5" x 0.7" x 5.5"

Customer Reviews

Read this before reading his DNA of Relationships books

Unlike a different reviewer I think the title The Wholehearted Marriage: Fully Engaging Your Most Important Relationship ACURATELY describes the focus of the book. Unfortunately that person's negativity towards anything that mentions a spiritual perspective stopped him from reading what the author (a PhD in Psychology who is actively involved at two relationship counseling centers with high success rates) is saying... Your heart HAS to be open and engaged before ANY steps towards an improved marriage will work. I have been to one of Greg Smalley PhD's "DNA of relationships" seminars with Rob Paul PhD and would say that this book belongs in the top five of all relationship books... Not that it covers such a vast number of subjects so much as this IS a critical first step. Having been married (for a short while) to an individual who's heart was fully self focused and being now married to a woman who is working at opening her heart (she bought the book). I can attest to the importance of the concept described in this book... spiritual or otherwise. The DNA of Relationships (Smalley Franchise Products) by his Father, Gary Smalley PhD or The DNA of Relationships for Couples (Smalley Franchise Products) by Greg Smalley PhD and Rob Paul PhD will be much more usefull if you read The Wholehearted Marriage: Fully Engaging Your Most Important Relationship first.

Loving & Living Wholeheartedly.

I got this book for free on a website, with the only reason being I had to read and review it. Being newly married, I was looking forward to reading a book about marriage, because I know that getting encouragement and reading and learning about other's experiences could only be a help. I know there are many books out there about marriage and it's hard to find the right one you want to read, because who is to say it will be a help you or not? Many people know Gary Smalley, the writer of over 28 books on marriage and other topics, but now is son Greg Smalley is following in his footsteps to write books, and bring marriages together. Greg Smalley, co-authors this book with Shawn Stoever and together they make a great team! Their humor lights up the pages and makes for fast reading, and the things they share really make the book become real. They give personal life stories, tons of examples, and really share their hearts on the matter of living and loving whole-heartedly. Not only did I learn about marriage and what it really takes to make a great marriage, but I learned a lot about myself. This book shows that no marriage is perfect, but every marriage can have the chance to last a lifetime. It just starts with the heart! Come along this journery and discover things you never knew about your spouse, your marriage, and yourself! [...]

The Heart of a Marriage Remains the Heart

Everyone would agree that marriage is a matter of the heart. Then why do marriages grow stale and fail? Once again, it is a matter of the heart. In their book The Wholehearted Marriage, counselors Greg Smalley & Shawn Stoever pound home this one simple point: you can't improve a marriage relationship without focusing on the heart. All the conflict resolution, financial planning, dating tips, & sex guides in the world will not help a marriage unless you have "two hearts fully open and engaged." Consequently, the book guides the reader through steps to "understand, unclog, & unleash" the heart in marriage. In the first part of the book the authors deal with understanding the heart and its central role in life & relationships. Their basic principle that a closed heart will not be able to love and engage in a relationship is important, and I think many marriages fail for precisely this reason. We've all seen marriages where two people pledged themselves to each other & to God, and yet ended up turning away. The underlying reason often comes down to one person closing their heart to the other. From understanding the heart the authors move on to unclogging the heart. There are chapters on helping to heal the wounded heart, helping to open up the fearful heart, and helping the exhausted heart to gain strength. Their view of the heart is similar to that of popular author John Eldredge and some other psychologists. I find their views and advice to often be helpful but also theologically shallow. There are some real problems with the heart, especially concerning the sin nature, which are not adequately covered in this view. Like Eldredge, they also make mention of the Spirit directly revealing specific information to us, which likewise wades into some murky waters. The final division of the book becomes more practical, with chapters on caring and speaking to your mate's heart, as well the importance of laughter and enjoyment in the context of a relationship. These chapters are a helpful read, but are fairly standard relationship booster material. Overall, I think their one simple point remains the great strength of the book: there's no point in working on any issue in a marriage until you start working on the heart first. We all would do well to keep the heart at the heart of every marriage.