The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

By M. Gary Neuman and M Gary Neuman

Book Overview

The New York Times bestselling look at the real reasons for male marital infidelity and what might prevent it Few events cause as much turmoil in a marriage as infidelity. It can shatter trust and breed insecurity and resentment from which some relationships never recover. People who think it won't happen to them are hit that much harder when it does. Why are men unfaithful? Can infidelity be prevented? What do men say they're getting from their mistresses that they're missing at home? Do a man's friends have anything to do with his willingness to cheat? In this New York Times bestselling book, experienced family counselor M. Gary Neuman shares the revealing and surprising findings of a cutting-edge research study in which he interviewed men across the country who have physically cheated on their wives. Neuman shares many shocking discoveries, including the prominent role of emotional dissatisfaction in motivating husbands who stray and how small a role sexual dissatisfaction plays. Based on a groundbreaking study of both cheating men and men who have remained faithful Reveals surprising findings on the contribution of sexual and emotional dissatisfaction to male infidelity Written by experienced family counselor M. Gary Neuman, coauthor of In Good Times and Bad and author of Emotional Infidelity Neuman and The Truth about Cheating were featured twice on The Oprah Winfrey Show Drawing on dramatic case stories of the author's own work with clients, The Truth about Cheating includes proactive strategies and action steps for married women to help them prevent infidelity and create a faithful and rewarding marriage.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0470502134
• ISBN13: 9780470502136
• Release Date: October 2009
• Publisher: Wiley & Sons Canada, Limited, John
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 0.64 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.8" x 8.9"

Customer Reviews

This book changed my marriage, for the better.

I am a man, and I read this book simply because I figured I could benefit from it the same as women do. The wisdom is true, and very practical. Following the principles in this book has enriched my marriage in a way that few other books have. Gottman's books have also been very helpful for us. Probably because both authors rely on rigorous research, and not speculation.

Great Advice!

When people are asked why men cheat, most automatically think it is sexual dissatisfaction and never really think there may be other issues. M.Gary Neuman went to the source and approached men who previously cheated on their wives and interviewed them. I really believe that he offers wives numerous beneficial tips that not only can help prevent their husbands from cheating but even make their marriage stronger. Neuman is not telling wives to blame themselves but rather to take action and make an effort to strengthen their marriages through appreciation and support. The reality is that our lives are hectic and often we have so many responsibilities we forget to work on what is of the utmost importance, our marriages and family life. This book was well written and offers great advice.

excellent book

Personally i think this book offers great advice for all married women whether or not they think their husbands will cheat on them. Neuman focuses on giving women suggestions on ways to prevent their husbands from being unfaithful. This book is well written and i believe that it can really be beneficial to strengthen ones marriage.

The Number One Reason Why Men Cheat

Book Review: The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do To Prevent It From: www.BasilAndSpice.com Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship The Number One Reason Why Men Cheat What's the issue? Fidelity. Period. It's what almost every woman wants and is definitely a fundamental issue between a husband and a wife. Unfortunately, infidelity is a major problem in our society. Who's at fault? And can infidelity be prevented? Author M. Gary Neuman, a family counselor is the creator of 2 x 2 Intensive--an innovative approach to couples therapy. Conducting a study of 200 husbands, he interviewed 100 physical cheaters and 100 faithful non-cheaters. His findings found that the number one reason why men cheat is "emotional dissatisfaction" (48%)--participants cited lack of appreciativeness, feeling unwanted, or being stuck in a "no-win situation." Neuman also noted:M. Gary Neuman, M.S., LMHC * 8% of cheating husbands mentioned sexual dissatisfaction as a reason * 11% cited lack of communication * 10% said my wife and I no longer share the same values * 12% said my wife often loses her temper Infidelity clues include your husband spending more time away from home (55%), infrequent sex (34%), lack of personal contact (cell phone call) (29%), criticism from him rises (25%), increased fights initiated by him (20%). Another hint offered by Neuman, most cheating occurs with friends, not one-night stands. A book which will empower women, The Truth About Cheating offers advice from the author on cheating prevention. The book includes practical strategies for married women that will prevent infidelity and foster a faithful marriage. Related-- http://www.basilandspice.com/love-and-relationships/infidelity-warning-signs.html

Saved My Marriage

The Truth about Cheating has completely changed my marriage. Even though i have only read the book recently it has allowed me to see my husband in a better light and to allow me to really take control. This book is empowering for women and allows us to understand our men and make them never feel the need to stray. I loved Gary's ideas about making the man feel appreciated and i have even begun to watch as my husband has become warmer towards me in the past few days. I strongly recommend this book to everybody and hope you all enjoy it as much as i did!