The Singlehood Phenomenon

by Beverly Rodgers and Tom Rodgers

Book Overview

If you're single and wanting to be married, you probably know all about the sordid marriage stats. You understand the inherent challenges of marriage. And despite some skepticism, deep down you still... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1589302958
• ISBN13: 9781589302952
• Release Date: March 2015
• Publisher: Selah Publishing Group
• Length: 170 Pages
• Weight: 0.52 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Thank you for an amazing book!

I have no doubt many lives will be changed by your research. Your practical advice will help the reader easily identify and correct the behaviors that create barriers between themselves and true, lasting love. You have helped me realize that by putting God first, all facets of life and love can begin to take shape according to his perfect plan. Thank you for reminding me that God loves me and for equipping me with the tools to be a more effective communicator.

Well-articulated points deliver general knowledge about a compelling topic.

A brief read, The Singlehood Phenomenon suggests 10 reasons why attractive and seemingly available Americans are single (31% of the US population was unmarried in 2004. That's up from 10%, in 1970). To illustrate the 10 reasons, the text is peppered with vignettes of unmarried persons with various problem issues. Sally the Fitness Instructor scares away men. Don the Pastor attracts needy women. Rachel the twice-Divorcee is a people pleaser. These stock characters add life to the authors' points, but fall short of portraying the complex personalities and compelling stories of real people. Another weakness of the work is that the content overall is somewhat dulled, having been mostly borrowed from general counseling knowledge and popular self-help books of the past. Incorporating more applicable research findings would have made for more compelling arguments. Nonetheless, this book has merit in that it reviews a fresh issue in an otherwise saturated market of relationship self-help. And, while most self-help prescribes a behavioral 1-2-3, seasoned therapists Beverly and Tom Rodgers guide the reader to overcome problem issues, past pains, and unhelpful interpersonal patterns in new ways. For one, they beseech the reader to look inward--to unpack his or her emotional baggage before sabotaging another relationship. Persons interested in the topic of singleness should buy the book. It is worth reading and the authors include a money-back guarantee: If you're not satisfied you can tear out the title page and mail it to NavPress for a full refund.

A singles book without the sugar

This book is perfect for the rising segment of our nation, the single. It is an excellent book for any single person. They really cover the facts from a bibical point of view without the romantic sap that pollutes other books. The authors really get down to the brass tacks of the situation. I think most readers who are single will find some of themselves in almost every chapter. The story is also interlaced with bible verses. This provides some firm base for what the book has to say. A good book for any single person over the age of 30.

worth your time

Bella Depaulo's opinion(see review below) is not valid, because he just wants people to buy his book...if he has to bash another author's opinion on the subject of singlehood, that is just sad. This is not a perfect book, but it is definitely a worthwhile read as it opened me up to many of my tendencies regarding potential relationships. I am quite a cynic when it comes to relationships and typically don't give this kind of material the time of day, but this one is worth your time.

Helps you deal with beliefs, behaviors, and struggles with singlehood

My neighbor Kathy shocked me when she told me that she was pregnant. Single and a school teacher, she was struggling to keep her bills paid, her dog fed, and take care of an aging house. Kathy explained to me that the odds of her getting married and having it last were no better than 50/50 and even though she was regularly dating there weren't any real prospects in sight, she wanted children, and she wasn't willing to wait any longer! Another person confused about marriage by the media, frustrated by dealing with others with similar beliefs, and skeptical about finding a "Soul Mate." I wish The Singlehood Phenomenon was available then. Written by a couple, Drs. Beverly and Tom Rodgers who've been married for over 30 years and Christian counselors for 26 years, they explain that having a soul mate starts with multiple levels of mutual attraction but then takes work to define, refine, and enhance. That's covered in reason #2 of the 10 Brutally Honest Reasons People Aren't Getting Married. The 10 reasons are: 1. Skepticism about Love and Marriage 2. Lack of Faith in God's Provision 3. Unresolved Issues From the Past 4. Confusion About the Rules 5. A Poor Understanding of the Purpose of Marriage 6. Fear of Getting Hurt 7. Wanting the Perfect Mate 8. Not Dealing with Prior Heartbreak 9. An Unbalanced Emphasis on Career 10.Concern that My Marriage Will Fail Each reason gets its' own treatment in a chapter of The Singlehood Phenomenon. Each chapter begins with a definition of the premise and a real life example from the Rodgers years of experience. Each chapter ends with sections on Making it Practical: What About Me?; For Further Thought; and Growing Your Faith. I think that The Singlehood Phenomenon is a tool that Kathy and other singles, especially Christian singles, should have in their toolbox for dealing with the struggle of finding someone that they can love, and will love them, for a lifetime. Kevin Decker, host of [...]