The Secrets Men Keep

By Stephen Arterburn

Book Overview

All the things that men think and feel-but don't dare to talk about-are explored in this book by the best-selling author of Every Man's Battle, Stephen Arterburn. Significance. Fears. Sex. Communication. Relationships. Work. Commitment. Intimacy. Expectations. Control. Failure. Nothing that drives men, according to a national survey, is left untouched within these pages. But men-and the women who love them-are not left without hope either. For women who long to understand their man better, and for men who aspire to build more successful lives, Arterburn not only delves into their private needs, aspirations, motivations and frustrations but gives perspective on where those secrets come from and how to respond to them . . . to make life and love easier on everyone.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1591454697
• ISBN13: 9781591454694
• Release Date: October 2006
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson Inc
• Length: 282 Pages
• Weight: 1.15 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.3" x 1.0" x 6.3"

Customer Reviews

Accountability Partner material

I purchased this book and after a couple of chapter went back and started over, this time taking notes. I then had my wife read it and it helped her to understand better who I am and how she could help me with my walk with Christ and being the man that God wants me to be. I also bought one for my accountability partner and we generated questions we ask each other every week to help each other. Nothing compares to the Holy Word of God, with that said, this is an excellenty written book and although not all of it will apply to you there are many areas it will help you to refocus on the areas you are strong in and avoid the areas in life you are weak. Each chapter has a section titled "New Directions" followed by "New Connections" and these give you ideas to move you closer to the man you are supposed to be. I hate to read and usually listen to audio books while driving, I will read this one again.

Real eye opener for me!

I can only say that this book really opened my eyes to the things that men worry about, think about, and struggle with. The chapter on Respect (what men equate to love) was worth the price of the book! I highly recommend the book to anyone caught in the cycle of "if he would love me, I'd respect him" and "if she respected me, I would love her". It challenges the reader (be it man or woman) to go ahead and make the first move toward restoring the relationship. Plus a ton of other goodies by way of information from a man's mind.

Excellent insight into the male mind!

Where was this book 36 years ago when we first got married? :) This is slightly different than most books about men/women/relationship since it is based on a survey (questions and answers are listed in the back of the book) given to Christian and non-Christian men. The author then takes the results of the survey and divides it into several sections. He uses many different resources to back up his opinions and insights as he seeks to help us all understand why men do or don't do what we think they should do, or say or won't say what we want them to say. I highly recommend this book to women who want to understand the men in their lives better and to men who are seeking to understand their own strengths and weaknesses, especially regarding relationships with women. Sometimes it was painful to read the ways I have failed my husband, but if you don't know what the problem is, it's really hard to fix it. I also think the book explains things in such a way that it makes it easier for us (my husband and me) to talk about the differences together, without it coming across in an accusatory way. This book has been a real eye-opener to me (and I had already reads LOTS of books about male/female relationship). Highly recommed it for the insight and practial ways to apply what was learned.

Secrets

This is an excellent book not only for men to read but women as well. It is full of specifics to improve your life and is written in an easy to read format. My life has improved after just one reading and I have highlighted several pages for my wife to read. Get this book!

All Women Need to Read This.....

I picked this book up because of the title...and WOW!!!! Women...if you really want to know what men go through...this is a MUST read!!! I am newly married, and this book gave me the insight to really start my marriage off on the right foot. My husband picked up the book and said that Steve is accurate on every item. If you are questioning what to give as an awesome wedding, engagement, or shower gift..this is it!