The Questions to Ask Before You Jump Into Bed

By Laurie Seale

Book Overview

This lively guide can really kick-start the conversations between couples-but it also offers much more. These questions will help readers find a stronger degree of emotional intimacy before they take the plunge into physical intimacy, allowing them to choose better partners, make smarter decisions, and assess what they're really looking for in a relationship-before they get in too deep. Includes questions like: What was the major turning point in your life so far? Who are you at your worst? Your best? What are you most ashamed of? Have you ever had sex with an ex? What global issues concern you? Are you bi-sexual? Bi-polar? Bi-coastal? Do you believe in Heaven and Hell? Do you like your mother? Would you date yourself?

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0399532056
• ISBN13: 9780399532054
• Release Date: November 2005
• Publisher: Perigee Trade
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.43 lbs.
• Dimensions: 7.1" x 0.7" x 5.1"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Grade 12 and higher

Customer Reviews

Great Book

Not only is this book great for conversation but it realyl does help you to get to know the person.

Absolutely Wonderful Guide to Common Sense Dating

This is one of the best and most useful books I have ever read on how to truly, effectively find your mate. Laurie Seale's intelligent, sensible and self-esteem based use of questions to find out over time if you are truly compatible and your prospective partner sees life the way you do, values you, and values what you have to offer is thought-provoking and excellent. This gave me confidence to believe that I am on the right track. I am not being too picky or delusional - I am right at the heart of what matters. Having to offer what you want in return - knowing the qualities that really matter to you in a possible mate; being aware of your deal-breakers; and not going to bed with someone before you know those answers/have those essential similarities in common, is a good predictor of success and an even better predictor or avoiding heartbreak. This book ought to be read starting in High School when you are just beginning to date. It would save a lot of future misunderstandings between BOTH sexes. I have a Master's Degree and at age 47, am far past High School, but I am grateful to have found Ms. Seales' excellent book. Read it and enjoy !

Jump Into This Book

If you are a human being, BUY THIS BOOK. Ms. Seale writes with profound knowledge about a subject we must all master if we are to find the right mate and a fulfilling relationship. The insight Ms. Seale provides is born of experience and thorough research (plus a dash of yoga/Eastern discipline with the help of her friend Susan - see the dedication page). We are led gently through the "10 Questions," learning as we go about ourselves and that is the author's main point: We must know ourselves well, the good and the bad, before we can know others and most definitely before we choose a long-term mate. No matter what your age, whether you are dating, starting what may be a long relationship or wondering how to know for sure when the right person for you comes along, reading this book will guide you and help you.

Save time and pain

The most important dicision made in life, who we mate with, has beeen left to chance and whim - until now. The psychology of finding who we are so we can find who we want. The book is a great read, and if the right questions are asked, can save one years of pain. Enjoy, I did. Jimmy Ochs, LCSW, LCDC

Are You Tired of Kissing Frogs?

Laurie Seale has written a book that, if followed, could alter the dating scene considerably. This book should also drastically reduce the number of "frogs" that one must kiss before finding a compatible mate. Ms Seale suggests, very strongly, that we really get to know our potential mate before we jump into bed with him/her. She also suggests that we learn to know ourselves before we jump into bed. According to her, if we jump into bed with someone before we know them and what their goals are, then the chance of really getting to know that person and who they are is next to impossible. I found the book to be an interesting, informative, and entertaining read. I think that it is a must read for adolescents, young single adults, divorced and other single adults, marriage counselors, and, yes, even for old curmudgeons Like me. I recommend this book very highly to anyone who is about to, or is planning to, enter the dating scene. As well as those people who are tired of being burned by the dating scene. As an added bonus, asking oneself the questions in this book will go along way towards helping one get to know oneself more thoroughly. This has the added advantage of serving to raise one's self esteem. Bick Eubanks