The Pleasures All Mine: A Sexual Memoir of a Submissive

by Joan Kelly

Book Overview

When Joan Kelly took a weekend job as a professional submissive in a private dungeon, it seemed she'd finally found a perfect outlet for her pent-up desires. Suddenly, Joan was being paid to do things she'd only fantasized about. Having spent several years scouring the Internet unsuccessfully for a man who would dominate her in the bedroom without getting on her nerves outside of it, Joan had nearly lost hope of satisfying her sexually submissive...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0786716487
• ISBN13: 9780786716487
• Release Date: February 2006
• Publisher: Da Capo Press
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.50 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.1"

Customer Reviews

Awesome Book, well written

I absolutely loved this book. She tells her story extremely well. Very well written. The author takes you along through her journey of self discovery into a strange new world, nonetheless, a world that fits her like a glove. Excellent Read.

Excellant story...

of a real person exploring a world usually overwhelmed with fantasy. She is honest and smart, as well as unapoligetic about her sexuality. A great read.

Loved it

A page turner. I couldn't put it down. If you are looking for a graphic description of etreem sex this book isn't for you. The author does, however, skillfully reveal to the reader her hopes, fears and vulnerablilities as she pursues her career as a professional sub. Erotic enough to keep my attention, and then some. A great book for a nervous partner to read.

"I brought two kinds of cuffs."

When does a person go from asking why to why not? In a way, that is what Joan Kelly asks through out this memoir of her professional submission. At first, I wasn't so sure I liked Joan Kelly; she came across as aloof and subdued but then she is a submissive. Of course, you realize that she does have a strong will and certainly many personal opinions. I still don't know if I like her but I am most certainly intrigued by her. "The Memoir of a Professional Submissive" begins with Joan's search to fulfill her desire to submit by attending a BDSM club demonstration. Unlike some, Joan already knows she needs to pursue a submissive role to gain sexual gratification. She's seeking out her fulfillment unsure how to go about it. After stumbling through a few awkward situations she finally ends up at a commercial dungeon for BDSM as a professional submissive. Joan Kelly grants us the privilege of sharing in her journey as a professional submissive. You might not like the journey she takes or the situations she puts herself in but you will certainly be compelled to read each page with pensive interest. Joan Kelly writes of her journey with wonderful ease and a tempered pace that lends itself nicely to the gradual penetration in to the lifestyle of a professional submissive. This is not some pumped up porn fantasy but a small opening into an alternative lifestyle one woman takes to feel gratification and pay the rent. You can't help feel that this woman was no victim of circumstance but an explorer of self, which brings us back to the question of why or why not. Some of the actions in this book goes beyond what is accepted by the majority and at the same time you read it and societies morality isn't all that important to the discovery of self. I felt a lot of emotion reading this book. Joan Kelly emblazons her every whim, care, opinion, and most of all her vulnerability into the pages of her memoir. There is a casualness to her writing that lends itself to an intimacy that is rare and delightful. girldiver:)

different paths

I don't know if there are other books out there describing the journey of a professional submissive, but I enjoyed reading WHY Joan made the choices she did, her difficulties along the way and her courage to find what she needed. One of the main things this book does is show that "submissive" does not equal "doormat." Her story is bound (pun intended) to strike a chord with many submissives who are NOT professional but who are also searching for that special connection. And it provides a highly personal view into the desires, fears, highs and lows that can accompany a dominant/submissive exchange. Beyond the sexual nature of the subject matter, it is at heart a story of finding and accepting one's self.