The Other Woman: A Life of Violet Trefusis, Including Previously Unpublished Correspondence with Vita Sackville-West

by Philippe Jullian and John Phillips

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• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0395205395
• ISBN13: 9780395205396
• Release Date: January 1976
• Publisher: Houghton Mifflin
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 1.10 lbs.

Customer Reviews

VIOLET TREFUSIS : A KEY REFERENCE

This is the first biography of Violet Trefusis published in 1976 four years after Violet's death and 3 years after Nigel Nicolson's 'Portrait of a Marriage' was published (Violet's friends had been shocked by this book). It is written, with respect and affection by people who knew Violet in her late years (John Phillips is her literary executor) and had only recently learned in any detail of her early affair with Vita Sackville-West more than 50 years before. At 143 pages it is a rapid read but, additionally, it includes a good selection of Violet's letters to Vita Sackville-West and later letters from Vita and Harold Nicolson to Violet. It includes quotes from Violet's 'Don't Look Around' and also from her unpublished memoire 'Triple Violette'. We get a good sense of the old version of Violet as a larger than life, witty, flirtatious, fun loving woman who entertained luxuriously and knew all of high society. She appears to have built a psychological superstructure as the sensitive young Violet was not visible to the authors (she had not shared painful memories and she rose coloured the truth) therefore they find it difficult to construct an in-depth biography and rely heavily on the few contemporary published sources of information. More of their own very entertaining remembrances would have been welcome. "She played the Faubourg Saint-Germain dowager to perfection, but always with a wink to her intimates." She would say with that wink of hers, "You must remember, I'm a very conventional old lady". Nevertheless, this book includes the first sight of a collection of Violet's letters in full thus allowing Violet to speak for herself. The book was important for that reason. It is difficult to marry young Violet to her old enigmatic self. She therefore remains intriguing. The name dropping gets a bit tiresome (because I don't recognize many of the aristocrats) but then that was her later life - full of aristocrats, established writers, composers and the rest of high society. An effortless, frivolous version of the bohemian desires of her youth. This is a good read because of the insights of the authors who knew and appreciated Violet in her later years; the book remains important for this reason and because it contains the most comprehensive overview of the correspondence. The inclusion of 13 of Vita Sackville-West's letters from 1940 to 1950 (not gathered together anywhere else I believe) is particularly valuable because, from a cooling distance, the letters testify to the passion of the past and help make up for the destruction of Vita's early love letters. Here's the best quoted excerpt from Vita's letter of 3 September, 1950 when Vita and Violet were in their late 50s: "This is a sort of love letter I suppose. Odd that I should be writing you a love letter after all these years - when we have written so many to each other. Parceque c'etait lui, parceque c'etait moi. [Because it was him, because it was me - Michel De Montaigne]. Oh,

Worth looking for if you like tales from the heart

While five stars may seem somewhat generous for this book, it remains one of the few I've read more than once. I found it in my local library after the PBS aired, to much accompanying controversy, the BBC production of Nigel Nicholson's "Portrait of a Marriage" back in 1992. One of the unfortunate things done by the good people at the PBS was to cut 30 minutes from the dramatization. And this is why, ladies and gentlemen, we turn to books--to get the rest of the story. Although Diane Souhami's "Mrs Keppel and Her Daughter" gives a more comprehensive picture of Violet Keppel Trefusis' life, Jullian's narrative is charming and picturesque. Trefusis for her part could write the most beautiful love letters imaginable. Is it no wonder hers remain while those of Vita Sackville-West were destroyed (not by Violet herself, but she was so careless about them one wonders if they really mattered after all)? Violet Trefusis and Vita Sackville-West were ! women of privilege but dominated by mothers who would have died before allowing their daughters a college education. I can only imagine what they as writers would have produced had they had the opportunity to a more formal education. Well, that didn't prevent Virginia Woolf from earning an important place in literature, but I am a big believer in affirmative action. Vita and Violet were robbed!"The Other Woman" is about a woman who loved the arts and wore her heart on her sleeve--a rare bird these days. Five stars may be generous but three of the five belong entirely to Violet--a woman who knew how to make life lovely.