Psychologist Joe Ferguson argues that "male menopause" is a myth-midlife crisis isn't about hormones, but about psychology.
Ferguson explores what he calls the "Code of Guys," the unspoken rules that guide men from youth into middle age. When this code collides with midlife realities-career setbacks, mortality awareness, relationship changes-the result is cognitive dissonance, not hormonal decline.
Through stories of real men, including a fire chief and an AIDS activist, Ferguson shows how the same principles that create midlife crisis also offer its resolution. The key is updating the code with what he calls the "Reality Principle"-choosing missions wisely, accepting failure as part of growth, and embracing authentic relationships.
A practical guide for men in their 40s and 50s, and for those who want to understand them better. Ferguson combines humor with insight to reframe midlife transition as an opportunity for genuine maturity rather than a medical condition to endure.