The Kind Treatment

By Fu'ad Bin Abdul Aziz Ash-Shalhub

Everyone has right and everyone has virtue.

Each of the spouses has a right over the other, as well as each

of them has matters of virtue with regard to the other, which is

evident in the verses of Quran and Hadith that talked about

the rights of the husband and wife, one of (these verses) is:

His Almighty's saying: { المعروف ���� ولھن مثل الذي علیھن ب } "And due

to them i.e., the wives] is similar to what is expected of them,

according to what is reasonable". It means: They (husbands)

should fear Allah towards them (wives) just as it is obligatory

for them (wives) to fear Allah towards them (husbands). Ibn

'Abbas said: I adorn myself for my wife as she adorns herself

for me, because Allah says: { ولھن مثل الذي علیھن بالمعروف } "And

due to them i.e., the wives] is similar to what is expected of

them, according to what is reasonable".1 Each spouse has

rights over the other, so each of them should fulfil other's

right.

The wife should fulfil the rights of her husband by obeying

him and protecting his home and money. Describing the

greatness of the husband's right, the prophet -Peace and

blessings of Allah be upon him- said: لو كنت آمراً أحداً أن یسجد لأحد

ا�������� جد لزوجھ �������� رأة أن تس �������� رت الم �������� لأم ) "If I were to order anyone to

prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered a

woman to prostrate herself before her husband".2

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)

said to a woman: ( ا���� ت م ���� ھ ؟ قال ���� أذات زوج أنت ؟ قالت نعم قال كیف أنت ل

آلوه ( أي لا أقصّر في حقھ ) إلا ما عجزت عنھ . قال فانظري أین أنت منھ فإنما

ارك ���� ك ون ���� و جنت ���� ھ) "Do you have a husband?" She said, "Yes." He

said: "How are you with him?" She said, "I do not neglect any

1 Al-Mughni (10/220), Editted by Dr. Al-Turki, a, d Al-Hulw. Published by Dar Alamil Kutub.

2 Transmitted by Al-Tirmidhi (1159) and others.

of his rights except those I am unable to fulfil." He said:

"Look at how you are with him, for he is your paradise and

your hell".1 And he ordered the husband to act kindly toward

women, as he said: ( رًا ���� اءِ خَیْ ���� وا بِالنِّسَ ���� اسْتَوْصُ ) "act kindly towards

women".2 And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be

upon him) said in his last sermon: ( إِنَّكُمْ �������� اءِ فَ �������� ي النِّسَ �������� َ فِ ���� اتَّقُوا ا َّ �������� فَ

���� ةِ ا َّ �������� رُوجَھُنَّ بِكَلِمَ �������� تَحْلَلْتُمْ فُ ���� ِ وَاسْ ���� انِ ا َّ �������� ذْتُمُوھُنَّ بِأَمَ ���� أَخَ ) "Show fear towards

Allah regarding women, for you have got them under Allah's

security, and have the right to intercourse with them by

Allah's word."3

The husband is required to cajole his wife and win her heart,

and to be patien

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 9768426543
• ISBN13: 9789768426543
• Release Date: March 2023
• Publisher: Bjp Publishers & Distributors
• Length: 72 Pages
• Weight: 0.24 lbs.
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