The Day the Loving Stopped: A Daughter's View of Her Parents' Divorce

By Julie Autumn List

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• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0872235599
• ISBN13: 9780872235595
• Release Date: January 1980
• Publisher: Putnam Pub Group
• Length: 215 Pages
• Weight: 1.00 lbs.

Customer Reviews

My Letter to Julie List, Highly Commending Her Book

Your Book Revisited (A "letter to the author" in reference to "The Day the Loving Stopped" by Julie Autumn List) Your book, which I originally discovered as an eighteen-year old in the fall of 1981, remains indelibly etched in my memory as the first book I read after going off to college. What a joy it was for me to discover the book and read about someone whom I could relate to. While reading your book this year at the age of thirty-nine, other poignant passages in your story caught my attention. Enrolled at a school in the South as a college freshman, (I had moved from the D.C. area at the age of fifteen), I met very few people with divorced parents who understood my family dynamics. In my household, similar to yours, the child support/alimony check was always late. Like you at sixteen, I also had a difficult time with one of my father's girlfriends (who later became his second wife). One thing I learned from that experience was how not to act around the children of men whom I have spent time with. I do not try to force them talk to me if they do not want to, and make sure I am not taking any valuable time with their father away from them. My father also tried to back out on paying my college tuition. Our family dog, like yours, also passed away soon after I began college. You have cried at scenes of young girls with their fathers; I cried at the age of fourteen during a movie about William Allen White's daughter, Mary, entitled Mary White, knowing that I would never have much of a life with my father as a teenager. For many years my parents were also quite critical of each other. As an older person, I have a greater appreciation for the act of forgiveness, and better understanding of the perceptions I held while growing up, which enable me to relate to excerpts from your book even more than I did as an eighteen year old. The way you forgave your father and came to the realization that you could not blame your parents for your well being as an adult, I highly commend. My father, I forgave also; age has done him wonders, and he has developed an amazing level of inner peace. Your experiences of being serious and shy when you were growing up, I relate to well. As a child and teenager, I was also extremely sad when people walked out of my life, and cried the last time I saw my best friend from junior high. She was moving to Brazil at the time and did not seem upset about it. Instead, she appeared accustomed to moving, having been a daughter of a diplomat, who relocated to different parts of the world with his family every four to five years. She told me to please not cry and promised to write (we maintained correspondence with each other until we were seniors in high school, in the good old "snail mail" days). Not too long ago I was touched by a scene from the movie Jerry Maguire. In the scene a boyfriend is preparing to leave a woman who is the mother of a little boy. As the boyfriend is about to announce his farewell, the litt

Old Friend

I new Julie as a teenager, when she was going through this period. Having gone through similer experiences myself, her beautiful and heartwrenching story touched me more than she will ever know. I have read this book so many times over the years the cover has long ago fallen off. I am ordering my second copy today! jgold@randrealestate.com