The Caregiver Who Lasts

By: Marguerite Vandeleur

Nobody asks how the caregiver is sleeping. This is the book that does.

If you are caring for someone with dementia, you already own the books about them. This one is about you - your health, your hours, your money, and your capacity to keep going in a role that has no end date and no job description.

Dementia caregiving is not a crisis you sprint through. It is usually measured in years. The caregivers who last are not the ones who give the most; they are the ones who build something they can sustain. The Caregiver Who Lasts is a calm, practical companion for doing exactly that - written in the plural, from one caregiver to another, with no lectures and no false comfort.

What's inside:

- Why crisis mode fails, and what a sustainable caregiving arrangement actually looks like

- How to read your own warning lights before burnout arrives - and the reset ladder that stops small problems becoming collapses

- Boundaries that hold, including with someone whose memory cannot hold an agreement

- How to ask for help so people genuinely say yes - specific, bounded, easy to refuse

- What to do about the relatives who criticise from a distance and never once offer

- A method for sorting guilt into signal and noise, so you stop arguing with the part that has no answer

- Anticipatory grief: mourning someone who is still in the next room, and why it is not disloyalty

- Getting the legal, financial and medical paperwork in order while there is still time to do it calmly

- Bringing in paid help, and thinking clearly about residential care - including the promise you may have made years ago

- Rebuilding a life of your own now, not afterwards

- Plain checklists at the back, written to be copied onto paper and stuck inside a cupboard door

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 3747393527
• ISBN13: 9783747393529
• Release Date: September 2026
• Publisher: Marguerite Vandeleur
• Length: 140 Pages
• Weight: 0.44 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.3" x 6.0"