Stop Chasing, Start Choosing

By Maren Ashcroft

Stop sending the text you'll regret. Stop refreshing a conversation for the hundredth time. Stop mistaking anxiety for chemistry.

If you've ever over-given, over-explained, or over-functioned in a relationship just to keep someone from pulling away, this book was written for the exhausted, hyper-aware part of you that's ready for something different.

Stop Chasing, Start Choosing is a clear, compassionate guide to understanding and interrupting the anxious attachment pattern that keeps smart, capable women stuck chasing love instead of choosing it. Drawing on attachment research and real, practical tools (not vague affirmations), it walks you from "why do I always do this" to "I finally know how to stop."

What's Inside:

- Why the chase feels like passion - and how to tell real chemistry from a nervous system alarm

- Where anxious attachment actually comes from, and why it was never your fault

- The real, itemized cost of chasing - time, self-worth, and the relationships it quietly filters out

- A clear self-assessment for reading your own attachment patterns without judgment

- The evidence-based, inside-out method for rebuilding genuine self-worth

- The twenty-minute pause that interrupts the urge to chase in the moment it happens

- How to set boundaries that protect your peace, without guilt or over-explaining

- A four-part structure for saying hard things clearly, from security instead of fear

- How to evaluate a partner or relationship with clear eyes - real green flags and red flags

- A 30-day reset guide to practice everything, step by step

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 3893893725
• ISBN13: 9783893893720
• Release Date: September 2026
• Publisher: Maren Ashcroft
• Length: 122 Pages
• Weight: 0.38 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.3" x 6.0" x 9.0"