Stick Figure: A Diary of My Former Self

by Lori Gottlieb

Book Overview

Lori Gottlieb--psychotherapist, national advice columnist, and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone--shares her "gripping" (The Boston Globe) chronicle of adolescent... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0684863588
• ISBN13: 9780684863580
• Release Date: March 2000
• Publisher: Simon & Schuster
• Length: 222 Pages
• Weight: 0.05 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.8" x 8.8"

Customer Reviews

As Amazing as "WASTED"!

Because I struggled with an eating disorder in high school and college (I'm now in my mid-20s), I've read a lot of memoirs on this subject with particular interest. A friend who also recovered from anorexia recommended STICK FIGURE to me, saying, "You'll see yourself in this girl. And you'll LOVE her as much as you want to help her." What she meant wasn't just the very realistic depiction of obsession and distorted thinking that occurs with an eating disorder, but the fact that because these are real diaries, we see the whole girl, not someone looking back and talking only about how many hours it took to eat an apple. In other words, we see a girl who's funny and smart and as impossible as your average adolescent, who just HAPPENS to also be falling into a devastating illness. (I wonder what the author is like now -- she was HILARIOUS as a kid.)Most books about anorexics depict them as being incredibly controlling, compulsive, and monomanical about dieting - which they ARE - but that's usually ALL you see. Here, as in another great memoir, WASTED, you realize how complicated this illness can be. At times, Lori seems so "normal" -- even MORE "normal" than her friends and their dieting mothers. And you can really see how she's influenced by the attitudes around her, even though they don't "cause" her anorexia, they definitely contribute and add wry commentary on our media-driven culture.Most people gave this book five stars, and if I could give it six stars, I would! I TOTALLY disagree with the two people who thought the book didn't depict Lori's recovery realistically -- I LIVED her recovery and really related to the book's ending -- it isn't all neat and tidy. If they thought she saw herself in the mirror and suddenly ate again, then they clearly missed what was going on in Lori's mind. What's so compelling about this book is how subtle the messages are -- you're in the mind of an adolescent, you're reading her journals, and every line seems to have some significance without hitting you over the head with a profound "epiphany." Even for people who have no experience with eating disorders, I highly recommend this book. All the people in her life-- her parents, her brother, her friends, her teachers, her doctors -- actually make this a FUN book to read (tragic, too, obviously, but you'll laugh even as it's sad and frightening). The people in the book are "out there" yet so real at the same time (I think we had the same teachers!). It's not quite the Addams Family, but the Los Angeles family Lori grew up in isn't quite the Cleavers either.If you loved "Wasted," you'll love "Stick Figure." And you might even learn something -- about yourself, about eating disorders, about the confusion of being a female teenager, and about the ridiculous pressures of our society -- along the way. But mostly, you'll just want to read it over and over again.

A MUST-READ for parents of young girls!

A startling look at the progression from complete body-innocence to complete body-consciousness. This book is comprised of Lori's diaries from when she was about 11 years old. When it starts out, she's a pretty normal kid: goofing around, worrying about being liked, and just, basically, being 11. However, Lori was surrounded by women who were constantly telling her they were fat or she was fat or they/she would BECOME fat if they did this or that. As the result of this constant brainwashing (really, that's what it is, you guys), she slowly begins to think real women just don't eat. So, she quits eating too. It was horrifying to watch her mind go through the changes -- one minute she's a happy kid munching on a cookie after school and the next minute, she's in the hospital weighing less than 50 pounds and thinking her thighs are fat. She even believes breathing in air that SMELLS like food is enough to gain weight and her desperation to avoid gaining a single ounce is just gut-wrenching. I have felt that fear and I felt it again when I read this (a sign of good writing, incidentally). But when people tell her to stop dieting, she doesn't understand why since everyone around her is dieting too. Her friends throw away their lunches, her mom eats a few bites of salad for dinner and then sneaks down to the kitchen for cookies later, etc. etc. etc. The only people eating normally are her brother and father, and they're both too oblivious to really see what's going on. One of the scariest parts of this book for me was realizing how many things Lori did when in the throes of anorexia that I do or have done. It's a real wake-up call. I mean, how can I yell at Lori to EAT THE DAMN COOKIE! when I pick all the cheese off my pizza, keep a constant mental tally of the calories I've consumed today, and wouldn't eat a real bowl of ice cream if you paid me? The book really made me aware of the fact my own habits have the potential for really screwing up my kids (when I have some) and that kinda shook me up a bit. Because, in fact, her parents are the ones who really turned Lori into the anorexic she became and they didn't even realize they were doing it. Her mother is not only a terrible influence on Lori's eating habits (Lori picked up a lot of her behaviors FROM her mother), but she's also self-centered and childish. She doesn't give a damn about her daughter -- she's just concerned that having a skeletal child will reflect poorly on her. I wanted to smack her. And her father, though obviously caring, didn't put two-and-two together and tell her the obvious -- YOU ARE THIN and YOUR MOTHER IS JUST CRAZY, IGNORE HER.I went on my first diet in the third grade and it took me about 20 years to realize I look great the way I am. People, we have GOT to do better than that. I wish all parents of little girls would read this book. Incidentally, one reviewer here said the book was totally unbelieveable because at the end Lori

A very unique perspective on anorexia

This story is the memoir of a Beverly Hills woman's descent into anorexia at the age of 11. Her mother's constant "real women don't eat dessert" attitude, her perfectionistic nature, and the realization of how much power she could get by not eating were the main factors I saw that lead to the disease.Strikingly first person, the story is written based on Gottlieb's childhood diaries. Therefore, it has a very unique tone to it. Her attitude that the rest of the world is crazy gives the reader a sense of what could be going on in the minds of other young girls with anorexia. It is exceptionally poignant; humorous at times and heartwrenching at others.I literally wanted to jump in the book and knock some sense into her parents, based on the way they were "handling" Lori. Her mother's comments made me jerk with agitation at some points. Of course, it was 1978 when much less was known of the disease. Fortunately, the support today is much stronger for the families of anorexics, who can then better support the terrible situation of their loved ones.What surprised me the most about this book was how Lori was such a brilliant student. In my mind, smart people don't get anorexia. It certainly shifted my thinking about who the prime candidates for this disease are.I would recommend this book to anyone who deals with girls as young as 10. It is amazing how early anorexia starts, and this book gives a great new perspective on the disease, and of some of the warning signs.

THE TRUEST BOOK EVER WRITTEN ABOUT GROWING UP IN OUR CULTURE

This is one of the TRUEST and most hilarious books I've ever read about growing up in our culture. Even though I was never diagnosed with anorexia, I spent all of my teen years dieting and exercising and comparing my body to everyone else's much as Gottlieb writes about in her diaries. I didn't like obsessing about my body, but I felt I had no choice if I wanted to look good, or just fit in with my friends, or be liked by guys in high school and college. Even after college, all the women at work seemed to be on diets or skipping lunch or talking constantly about their bodies. And these women were supposed to be my mentors! I felt like I was reading my OWN diaires, I related to this book so much! Gottlieb really points out the ridiculous messages our culture sends women, and the danger in following all the "rules." Reading the actual words of a teenager trying to sort out her body image is much more powerful than any memoir I've read on this subject. I've recommended this book to all my friends, co-workers, my sister, my mother, and I recommend it to EVERYONE who has ever been a teenager in our society!

I CANNOT SAY ENOUGH ABOUT THIS BOOK

The most insightful, hilarious, accurate look at growing up in America--everyone needs to read this book! It is not about the disease of anorexia. Anorexia is the symptom of a girl's struggle to maintain her identity and value system. STICK FIGURE dissects that time when we as kids are taught and confused by the rules of conduct within our society. For example, on the one hand we are told not to lie; yet on the other, we are told not to be rude and say everything we feel, even when asked a direct question. So what is it...say what you don't quite mean? Yes, essentially, we are taught to be fake. This is just the tip of the iceberg. As a young girl, Lori was more observant and insightful, not to mention wry and witty, than most adults I know. I have never been a fan of "coming of age stories," but this one is so dead-on (maybe because it is written in the author's own words as an adolescent), yet incredibly entertaining, I could not put it down and can't stop spreading the word. Parents should make it a point to check it out--this book will shed light on things you may not be aware of (or have forgotten) as you attempt to arm your children for the real world. And in today's ever-increasingly cynical world, it was refreshing to read this girl's honest search for integrity; though bittersweet, her story will strike a cord in anyone who reads it.