I am aware that the title of this book may appear provocative or even unsettling. Yet, I am confident that at some point in our lives we have all asked ourselves a fundamental question: Am I truly satisfied with who I am?
At various moments, this question emerges through more subtle reflections: Why did I act that way? Why did I say that? Why do I have these thoughts? Why do I repeat the same patterns? These moments of inner questioning confront us with a deeper reality-one that reveals how little we may truly understand ourselves and the reasons behind our actions.
Living with oneself, then, becomes a legitimate and unavoidable question. In fact, it is precisely the question this book seeks to explore.
I once read that marriage is a daily choice-one that can, in theory, be abandoned at any time. Living with ourselves, however, is not optional. It is inevitable. This led me to consider a challenging idea: if we had the possibility of separating from ourselves, would we choose to do so?
This question may seem unusual at first, but I invite you to consider it seriously. Imagining such a possibility allows us to examine who we truly are and whether we are capable of accepting-and even loving-ourselves at a deeper level.
This is not a book about becoming a "better version" of yourself, because such a version does not exist. You and I are already extraordinary. What often limits us is not a lack of potential, but the emotional and mental baggage we carry-assumptions, fears, and identities we have adopted over time-that distances us from authenticity and prevents us from fully experiencing who we are.
Self-knowledge has rarely been treated as a priority in what we have been taught. As a result, while some of the concepts discussed in this book may sound familiar, I invite you to approach them with openness-not to learn from this book alone, but to learn about yourself through your own process.
Ultimately, this journey is not guided by an external authority.
We are our own most valuable teachers.