She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self, and Speaking Up

By Sheila Wray Gregoire, Joanna Sawatsky, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach

Book Overview

You want your daughter to thrive--to be strong, confident, and equipped to step into the life God has for her.

But what if the church is setting your daughter up to be small?

Armed with data from an all-new survey of over 7,000 women, the authors of The Great Sex Rescue reveal how experiences in church as teens affect women's self-esteem and relationships today. They expose common evangelical teachings that can backfire--the purity emphasis that can cause shame rather than good choices, the dating rules that can prime your daughter for abuse, and the one overarching belief that can keep her from setting healthy boundaries.

Instead, the authors advocate biblically grounded, freeing messages that are more about the dos and less about the don'ts. By reframing (and sometimes replacing) common evangelical messages to teen girls, this book will equip you to raise a daughter who can navigate the tumultuous teenage years while still clinging tightly to Jesus.

You can raise your daughter with the discernment to resist toxic teachings. Because she deserves better than a faith that keeps her small.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1540900835
• ISBN13: 9781540900838
• Release Date: April 2023
• Publisher: Baker Books
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.94 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.2" x 5.6" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

So overwhelmingly good!

I flipped through until something caught my eye and started bawling my eyes out within 2 minutes while walking out the door. 😭 My highlighter is wearing out. Read with tissues on hand. I don't have any daughters- this is all speaking to the unknown hurt from my past adolescence. Things HAVE to change for the next generation. The lessons we accepted without a second thought are just putrid! I wish I could get everyone to read it! I think it would change the world. This will challenge your worldview for sure! Be open to it. Hear the stories. Listen to the evidence. Challenge your thoughts.

A Breath of Fresh Air

After breaking my engagement with my college boyfriend, I concluded that I was doing something wrong, so I turned to the popular Christian relationship books of the late 90’s. All those books got me was an abusive marriage and a subsequent divorce. This pink book is a breath of fresh air. My first read through was so healing for younger me. I will be reading it again, only with my teenage daughter, so she has the healthy teachings that I didn’t have. If you grew up with the toxicity of purity culture, you need this book. If you have a daughter, granddaughter, niece, or other girl in your life, you need this book.