Secrets To Lasting Love : Uncovering The Keys To Lifelong Intimacy

By Gary Smalley and Smalley Gary

Book Overview

Gary Smalley is one of the world's foremost speakers and experts on love and relationships. His gift for helping couples create more meaningful communication and deeper understanding so that they can establish an unwavering bond is the inspiration behind Secrets to Lasting Love, the culmination of Smalley's decades of work. In it he outlines the three essential skills that move couples to the highest levels of intimacy:
Respect your spouse for all of his or her individual qualities and differences from you. Communicate with each other in a way that moves conversations into deeper realms of understanding. Renew and recharge your spouse emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually -- constantly.
It is not easy to recognize and then apply these skills. But Secrets to Lasting Love shows everyone how to do just that, so they can reach what Smalley calls the fifth, or ultimate, level of intimacy -- where there's a marital bond strong enough to withstand the inevitable highs and lows of life. With Gary Smalley, you will have the tools to create a heightened sense of commitment that will allow you to reach your spouse's heart and spirit.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0684850516
• ISBN13: 9780684850511
• Release Date: February 2001
• Publisher: Free Press
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 2.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

I strongly recommend this book

Here is a book that goes straight to the heart of the matter in relationship. Couples who follow the advises and exercises as prescribed in this book will experience a relief and more attraction to each other. From a man perspective I truly strongly recommend this book. Dr. Israel King,Ph.D. Author of How To Keep A Man

Almost six years later and it still works

I read Gary Smalley's "Secrets To Lasting Love" at the request of Rev. McLaren the minister who married my wife and I (almost six years ago). Now given that I haven't looked at this book in a few years I'm going to restrict this review to what this book has done for my wife and I. Prior to reading Mr. Smalley's work I constantly lived in a place in my mind where I didn't really communicate with my wife. I was afraid of confrontation, and anytime it came down to talking over issues that needed to be discussed I wanted nothing to do with it. I distinctly remember reading this book and Mr. Smalley pointing out that people really rob themselves in intamacy by not talking. He quickly points out that couples need to talk about the things they don't want to talk about the most. This is hard work (trust me I know), but is vital to true intimacy. Marriages don't grow without talking about the very things you don't want to discuss. Now doing this without blaming your spouse, without accusations, without harsh speech is not as easy as think. But if you want your marriage to flourish the way God intended these skills are vital. I don't remember everything that's in this book (I should review it again myself), but I can tell you that what I've applied works like a champ. God Bless Your Heart... P.S. To the person who keeps attacking all my faith based reviews keep going. I know I must be on the right track.

Great Book

I'm never disappointed with Gary Smalley's advice. So much good information it is difficult to take in all at once. I may not always like it but he is seldom wrong. I like the way the uses his and others "win's" and "losses" to get the point across. This is a book I'll need to re-read and I'm sure my wife will appreciate his advice too.

A true marriage blessing!!

This book will bless Your Marriage and Your walk with the Lord. Gary Smalley is truly a blessed author and this book has been blessed. Read this book and Your walk with the Lord will grow, and your marriage will be off the scale! Excellent book!!!

An **Essential** Toolkit

Gary Smalley claims that the information in this book is revolutionary. It is. Very unlike his other titles. If you are in a man-woman relationship you have 3 choices: 1. Have your relationship far more shallow than you could know. 2. Be doing naturally what is in this book. 3. Be doing what is in this book from it having instructed you how. If you are divorced or going through one, be prepared for it to split you wide open. However, not to be left that way, it will give you a needle and thread to suture you back up. Myself, if I am dating someone and they aren't reading this book and discussing it with me by the 3rd date, there won't be a 4th date. Everyone I've gotten to pick it up has agreed. Read the Intro and Chap 1 and you'll understand what I'm talking about.