Screw Cupid: The Sassy Girl's Guide to Picking Up Hot Guys

By Samantha Scholfield

Screw Cupid is the guide for every woman ready to take her dating life into her own hands. Samantha Scholfield has many years of dating experience, and the techniques and strategies she reveals here... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1615190007
• ISBN13: 9781615190003
• Release Date: September 2009
• Publisher: Experiment
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.6" x 7.9"

Customer Reviews

Brilliant book on starting conversations with guys (from a guy)

Note: I am a single man, and I think the ideas in Screw Cupid are brilliant. The sexual liberation movement brought sexual equality to women, but it destroyed dating. As every woman became potentially sexually available, neutral conversations between strangers of the opposite sex became next to impossible. Any attempt at polite conversation by a man became suspect. "How are you doing?" is now translated as, "I'm attracted to you" and provokes a wall of resistance by the woman, eager to show the man she won't be such an easy catch. The nice men no longer approach women, worn out by knee-jerk rejection, and the only men left initiating conversation are the jerks that no nice woman would ever want to date. This is the reason single women today complain incessantly, "There aren't any nice guys out there." What's a girl to do? Offer to buy the MAN a drink? When even "Hello" becomes suspect, what are we left with as a conversation opener? This is the social reality we now live in. Rather than fight it, Scholfield embraces the current culture and offers a brilliantly simple and effective method of bypassing the resistance faced by both men and women in initiating conversation, and ultimately relationships, with perfect strangers. Acutely aware that the first words out of someone's mouth produce a reflexive response by the object of interest, she succeeds in eliciting a path of natural conversation, avoiding the the awkward, sexualized, and easily rejected path of the pick-up line approach. As she explains throughout the book, with numerous examples, the "neutral approach" is the most reliable way to quickly and safely get to know a complete stranger, anywhere at any time. This in itself is worth the cost of the book, but Scholfield goes further and describes how to apply the neutral approach method to groups of same or mixed-sex strangers, or those times when you're out with a male/female friend. She also offers a simple but effective way to end the conversation with a confirmed date, or the knowledge that the hot guy/girl you're talking to simply isn't interested, avoiding the hell of waiting for days for the phone to ring. This book is ingenious. There are plenty of books available on how to build a successful relationship, once you've found the right person. For most people, though, the hardest part about dating is starting a conversation with someone you are attracted to. Screw Cupid is less about "pick-up lines" than it is about facilitating conversation. The method Scholfield describes is easily learned and can be adapted to just about any personality and any age, applied to any social context where there are people--from bookstores to bars, supermarkets to dance clubs. In fact, it can be used just as successfully by men as by women. I wish everyone would read it; then, we would all have a better chance at meeting one of the "good ones."

A Fun Surprise

I bought this on a lark and found it to be highly entertaining as well as totally helpful. I am newly single and looking at the sixties all too closely. I wish this book had been around for me thirty years ago! I found this book to be a great breath of fresh air. Things don't look so bleak all of a sudden. I feel empowered and enthusiastic about looking around now. What fun! Thank you, Samantha.

GENIUS! Finally a dating book that ROCKS!

This book is absolutely GENIUS! I am single, living in San Francisco, and "how to meet guys" is always a topic of conversation among my fellow single girlfriends. As I was reading Screw Cupid I couldn't help but think, "why didn't I think of this!" Scholfield offers step by step guidance to approaching a guy you are interested in, but without him knowing you are making the first move. Her examples are hilarious! And, of course, she offers a lot of options so there is bound to be one you can see yourself using. I am a fairly shy person and want my fellow shy girls to know that the theories in this book WORK! While in the airport last week I approached a guy that was standing in front of me in the baggage check line using the "need for information approach" and before I knew it we were saying farewell at the security check line- and he had my number in hand with plans to meet when we both returned. While reading Screw Cupid, I felt like I was catching up with my best friend, listening to her dating stories. Scholfield's experience is totally relatable, the and the advice is solid. Finally, a dating book that proves dating doesn't have to be scary!

Practical, useful and very entertaining!

I found this book to be an entertaining and extremely practical and useful read. It's obvious that Scholfield uses some of the more amusing conversation starters for comedic value, but the base theory - using a question to start talking to the guy you want to talk to - is brilliant. I approach guys. I've never had a problem with it, and the issues that Scholfield hilariously details in the first part of the book can and do indeed happen. Her advice to remain neutral is insightful, and shows a keen understanding of first impressions, initial contact with a good-looking stranger and dating (and life) in general. On either side - whether it's the guy or the girl doing the approaching - anytime it's obvious that the person approaching wants more than the other person does, it's awkward. If that goes away - which is does when you follow Scholfield's advice and remain neutral - the sky is the limit. She talks about meeting a lot of guys, but it's with the ultimate intention of finding THAT guy. Her focus is definitely on finding quality, but with the practical standpoint that you need to go through some quantity to find that quality. She has a section on online dating - which is where she met her boyfriend, incidentally - and uses her successful email to him as an example. Through that you can see that she uses the very same techniques that she would have used in person to set up their first date. She also focuses a lot on the fact that although bars and clubs are the common go-to places to meet guys if you're a 20 to 30-something (and I am), that it's the places where sex isn't so on the brain that work best, like hiking, sailing, running clubs, libraries, concerts, cooking classes, etc. And if you don't already do those things, Scholfield says to join a group and get out there. According to her, if you don't like your current dating life, you should mix it up. Simple, but true. One of my favorite parts is her focus on refining your "List", which she defines as the list of traits that you "must have" in a potential boyfriend, as well as the "no way" traits that you can't stand and would never consider dating. She suggests going through each item on your "list" and then walks you through a process to figure out if that item really needs to be there. All this is done with the intent of figuring out what type of person you REALLY want to be with. Once you know that, you can put yourself in situations where you're more likely to meet him. All in all, I loved this book. By the end I wanted to spend an afternoon hanging with Scholfield, I liked her so much from her writing. -Mary in Denver

It worked on me!

I'm Samantha's boyfriend, and I can report from first-hand experience that the techniques from this book definitely work.