A Memoir of Mental Illness, Survival, and the Long Shadow of Toxic Shame
Runaway, Shame is a raw, unflinching memoir about growing up under the weight of verbal abuse, emotional neglect, and unrelenting shame-and the lifelong psychological scars that follow.
In this deeply personal continuation of the author's autobiography The Forgotten Son, the book explores how childhood trauma, particularly toxic shame inflicted by a primary caregiver, can metastasize into depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and a fractured sense of self. Through lived experience, psychological research, and spiritual reflection, the author examines how shame takes many forms-body shame, money shame, career shame, religious shame, relational shame-and how each one quietly erodes a person's ability to feel worthy of love, safety, and belonging.
Structured around the psychology of shame, Runaway, Shame blends memoir with mental-health insight, tracing the author's journey from a verbally abusive childhood, through a suicide attempt, and into adulthood as a husband, father, educator, and believer still wrestling with the same inner voices planted decades earlier. The book does not offer easy answers or inspirational platitudes. Instead, it offers honesty, language for pain that often goes unnamed, and solidarity for those who suffer in silence.