You don't have an anger problem.
You don't have a motivation problem.
You have a reaction problem.
RESPOND: Keep Your Promise, Own Your Choices
R - Recognize the Trigger
Notice what sets you off
E - Examine the Emotion
Name what you feel
S - Slow the Reaction
Pause. Breathe
P - Perspective Matters
Check assumptions. Shift view
O - Own Your Choice
Take responsibility for the option you choose
N - Navigate Your Response
Act in alignment with values and goals
D - Decide and Act
Follow through-cleanly
RULE
Pause → Assess → Choose → Act
PROMISE
Keep Your Promise
Own Your Choices
I hope you find what you are looking for. You are not alone.