Praying Through Grief

by Mauryeen O'Brien

Book Overview

Praying Through Grief is a resource which allows anyone to organize prayer services designed specifically for those wrestling with grief. These brief, practical services combine prayer, meditation,... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0877936293
• ISBN13: 9780877936299
• Release Date: January 1997
• Publisher: Ave Maria Press
• Length: 110 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 8.5" x 11.0"

Customer Reviews

Healing all wounds...

In her introduction, Mauryeen O'Brien talks about our need to go through a grief process after losing loved ones. While this may seem exceedingly simple an observation, in fact denial is a big part of grief, and the idea that we need to grieve can be one of the things denied both before and during the time we might lose a loved one. There is no single approach to follow; even people within the same communities and faith traditions will find varying things involved in the grief process -- every person is an individual, after all, including each person grieving and each person lost. However, there are some parts of commonality in the grieving process, particularly within cultures. In our Western culture, most often 'prayer and ritual can bring a sense of balance and peace. They give us an opportunity to say goodbye, to express our pain, to adjust to a transition, to remember our loved ones, and to place those "remembrances" in the context of the present.' For those in the Christian traditions, to whom this text is addressed, there is the added element of hope in the grieving process that recognises sacred aspects. O'Brien includes simple yet powerful liturgies and prayer services for seasonal, holiday and general occasions. There are six pieces for spring and summer, including celebrations of life of particular use around Easter, Mother's Day and Father's Day. In the fall and winter there are five services, that address the holidays of Christmas and Thanksgiving, as well as the starker times of winter and Lent. The final section contains useful examples of services to follow on key events not specifically tied to the calendar - the anniversary of the death, anniversary of birth, life changes (job change, moving to a new home, etc.). There are also examples of pieces to be used at any time. The grieving process is unpredictable - while it has identifiable aspects (a la Kubler-Rossian five stages, among other paradigms), even these fall short of providing quantifiable predictive capability to know how fast the grieving process will take, and how the cycle through the stages will progress. In recognition of this, O'Brien's works can be used in parish settings, by small groups, in family settings or by individuals alone. The ideas contained in the liturgies come from familiar themes - the parable 'the pearl of great price', natural images like moist clay or permanent rocks, and other images give the reader/pray-er substance to hang onto. The liturgies strive to incorporate ideas that one should celebrate life in the face of death while recognising the loss. One very useful aspect of this book is the provision of participant sheets for each liturgy. Permission is granted by the author for photocopying these one-page guides to be handed out to participants in the prayer services, so that the book may be more readily useful. This is a good book and a useful book to any who need guidance with planning such services, and any who