People Are Never the Problem: A New Paradigm for Relating to Others

By Robert Watts, Jr. and Robert Watts Jr.

"If we all could internalize the simple truths in this book, the world we live in and the organizations in which we work would be better places. Why? Because we would all finally understand that "God does not make junk". People are beautiful; they're just no perfect. They have problems and they deserve our love and understanding. When we think people are problems, we corner them and give them little way out. We miss their light and focus on their darkness.Time and time again, Robert, through his heart-warming stories, sense of humor and self-insight, provides help for all of us to avoid this trap.Above all, remember: if we focus on the problems people have and not on people as problems, we can release incredible energy. With Robert Watts as our guide, our lives can take on new meaning. Enjoy and use his insights. Take my word for it, if you read this book, you'll never be the same, nor will the people with whom you share your life."

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1562924923
• ISBN13: 9781562924928
• Release Date: January 1998
• Publisher: Honor Books
• Length: 215 Pages
• Weight: 1.00 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 1.0" x 6.0"

Customer Reviews

Very insightful book from a wonderful person.

This book was sent to me by my friend and the author, Robert Watts, Jr. The book is a very insightful look at the way we all conduct our relationsips with other people, and of the way we see and perceive people. Once you read this book, you will see people in a totally new and different light. The author relates many of his own personal life experiences which lends a "realness" to the material. This should be a must read for anyone dealing with people on a day to day basis, which would include nearly all of us. Thank you for sharing this part of yourself with the world.

This book is the medicine most people need

I first read this book about a year ago.I find it to be a reference book for me.When I start feeling sorry for myself or want to blame someone else for my Problems it serves as a wake up.Robert must have known he wrote this book for me.

Honest. Real. No cheese.

Don't dismiss this one as just another self-help book. Mr. Watts dissects the building blocks of who we are--relationships--and successfully shows us that we must relate to one another as human beings, and not as "problems." Basically, we all go through it in life, but our approach to dealing with it is what really counts. Mr.Watts shows us how to look at others and ourselves with a new perspective and an understanding that the problems we face are secondary to our existence--we are first and foremost we are human. If we can remember that, then our own lives will be enriched and our relationships will improve in quality as well. Mr. Watts shares his own personal experiences and allows the reader to become involved with his own pain and enlightenment. His real and down-to-earth tone is felt throughout the book. Every reader will appreciate the honesty and intimacy Mr. Watts shares in this book and will begin to enjoy the people closest to them with a renewed spirit.

Wonderful New Voice Says Exactly What We Need To Hear

Wow. Have you ever been going through something and all of a sudden you pick up a book or an article or a song and right there in front of you are the exact words you needed to hear to deal with the issue? Well, due to his insightful plunge into human nature and the human condition Robert Watts turned on that kind of light bulb inside my head several times throughout this book. After reading it I felt eager to let go of the bitterness and anger that build up inside when people don't act the way we want them to. His stories poignantly illustrate how viewing people as problems keeps us from getting the most out of our relationships -- family , friends, bosses and subordinates. There is a strange combination of strength and vulnerability in this one -- he opens himself up for full disclosure in order to make his point then carries us right along with him to work through his pain. And by doing so we get a better sense as to how to work through our own. Robert Watts reminded me that we human beings need to build each other up, not tear each other down and in so doing, we all win.

My only hope is that all people read this book!

This book is a paradigm shift in today society. We look for blame at every slight and indiscretion. What would happen if we took Robert's advice and " Not play the Blame Game". Robert's book is based on bibical principals that have withstood the test of time. " He's got it! "People are not the problem, people have problems" If we believe that as a society, this world would be a better place to live. ...Thank you Robert.