Page 417
I didn't go to AA to get sober. I went because my husband was going, and I was the supportive one.
That's how Page 417 begins - with a confession that will feel familiar to anyone who has ever sat in a folding chair telling themselves they were there for someone else.
Ken Craig-Saunders is a traditional astrologer with forty years of experience reading addiction in other people's charts. He is also an alcoholic who didn't figure that out until he walked into his husband's AA meetings and, over the course of a few weeks, heard his own life described back to him by strangers.
This is not a book about a dramatic rock bottom. It's a book about the longer, harder journey that comes after: learning what acceptance actually means - and why it feels, at first, exactly like dying.
Page 417 draws its title from the most-quoted passage in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, a page that promises acceptance as the answer to all our problems. But nobody ever explained what acceptance is, why the word is so easy to say and so brutal to practice, or how to get from here to there.
This book is the explanation.
Drawing on four traditions - Alcoholics Anonymous, Stoic philosophy, Christian mysticism, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - Craig-Saunders maps the territory of acceptance with honesty that doesn't flinch: the difference between resignation and acceptance; why your resistance is biology, not weakness; what the Stoics knew two thousand years before Bill W.; why the problem was never the pain, but the war against it; and why, years into sobriety, a man who has done the work can still sit in a pew and not be sure he believes what he's saying.
This is a book for people who know they're supposed to accept something and have no idea how. It is for the runners - the fast, clever, exhausted people who have outrun the truth for years. For anyone who has ever been told to "let go and let God" and thought: I have no idea what that means.
It doesn't offer comfort in place of truth. It offers something better: the map of someone who got lost plenty of times, and made it through anyway.
"You don't have to accept everything today. You just have to stop pretending it isn't true."
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