Nurturing Essence: A Compass for Essential Parenting

By John Harper

Parenting isn't just about raising a child-it's about meeting a soul.

In Nurturing Essence: A Compass for Essential Parenting, John Harper offers a fresh and transformative approach to the first six years of life, where the foundations of selfhood are laid and the qualities of essence-joy, strength, will, and presence-shine most vividly.

Most parenting books focus on behavior management, milestones, or strategies. Nurturing Essence goes deeper, weaving together nine of the most influential developmental theorists-Piaget, Vygotsky, Bandura, Kohlberg, Mahler, Erikson, Freud, Winnicott, and Bowlby-with the often-overlooked spiritual perspective of essence: the inherent aliveness and wholeness every child brings into the world.

You'll learn to see your child not just as someone to shape, but as someone to meet-already whole, already alive, already here.

This book will help you:
- Understand your child's developmental stages from birth to age six-physically, emotionally, cognitively, and socially.
- Recognize essential qualities like joy, strength, will, and curiosity as they naturally arise in your child.
- Support healthy ego development without losing connection to what was present before the personality formed.
- Respond to challenging behaviors in ways that preserve connection, trust, and the child's authentic sense of self.
- Balance the demands of culture, family, and individuality in your child's emerging identity.
- Reflect on your own developmental history and how it shapes your parenting.

Inside you'll discover:
- A stage-by-stage guide to early development, enriched by nine powerful psychological frameworks.
- The concept of the social mirror-how your responses shape your child's self-perception.
- How play and joyful expression support learning and preserve essential aliveness.
- Practical ways to encourage both independence and secure attachment.
- Reflective questions to deepen your understanding of your child and yourself.

Nurturing Essence is not about being the perfect parent-it's about being a present one. It's a guide, a mirror, and a companion for anyone who senses there's more to parenting than simply "getting it right." By honoring both the unfolding personality and the timeless qualities of essence, you can help your child grow into a whole, authentic person-while rediscovering your own essence along the way.

For parents, caregivers, and therapists seeking a deeper connection, Nurturing Essence offers both the map and the compass.

As the developer of The Attuned Parent Project, I have witnessed how profoundly parenting is shaped by awareness, attunement, attachment, and authenticity. These four ways of becoming echo throughout these chapters. To see a child clearly (awareness). To meet them where they are, not just where we want them to be (attunement). To offer relationship as the secure ground from which they grow (attachment). To honor who they are, rather than molding them into what culture demands (authenticity). These are not lofty ideals; they are daily practices. And they align seamlessly with the vision offered here.

What strikes me most is how this book refuses to romanticize essence as something fragile to be preserved in a glass case. Instead, it shows us how essence can flow into development, how personality structures can remain permeable rather than rigid, and how parents can help their children grow into adults who are both capable and whole. This is the work of integration, not perfection. - -Mary Filice, PhD (Dr. Mary), Co-Founder, The Attuned Parent Project

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0FR323FPF
• ISBN13: 9798992443844
• Release Date: September 2025
• Publisher: john harper
• Length: 301 Pages
• Dimensions: 10.0" x 0.7" x 7.0"