Not Yours to Carry: Shed Shame, Live Courageously

By Dr. Lalitaa Suglani

Practical tools to help you release shame, embrace your full potential, and live with greater peace, confidence, and authenticity.

Not Yours to Carry is a powerful guide to help you overcome shame and break free from the grip of societal expectations so you can deeply connect with your true self. Through a blend of personal stories, case studies, and practical exercises, this book explores how perfectionism, people pleasing, and the masks you wear to protect yourself keep you stuck in cycles of self-doubt and prevent authentic living.

You'll discover the origins of shame, how it manifests in your life--its psychological toll and its impact on personal and professional relationships--and how the pursuit of approval reinforces harmful patterns and coping mechanisms. But this book isn't just about understanding the problem; it's about healing.

You'll learn to identify your shame triggers, embrace vulnerability, and dismantle the barriers to connection that prevent you from forming the deep, meaningful relationships you deserve. By the end of this book, you'll unlock the power of self-compassion, self-acceptance, and the benefits of living an authentic life, free from the pressure to perform and the constant need for validation.

It's time to embrace yourself fully--flaws and all--and choose self-respect over shame.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1401976611
• ISBN13: 9781401976613
• Release Date: March 2026
• Publisher: Hay House UK Ltd
• Length: 257 Pages