Not How I Drew It Up: One Man's Unthinkable Journey to Fatherhood

By Matt Seigel

What happens when the life you planned doesn't happen?

On his wedding day, Matt promised his bride they would one day have children of their own. Like many couples, they imagined a future that felt certain. What they didn't anticipate was the long road of infertility, devastating loss, and the quiet emotional weight carried by a husband trying to stay strong.

Told through the often-overlooked male perspective, Not How I Drew It Up is part memoir, part guidebook - a candid look at grief, resilience, and the strain fertility struggles can place on a marriage. With vulnerability and clarity, Matt shares the heartbreak he and his wife endured and the faith that carried them forward when answers were scarce.

This book is for:

Couples navigating infertility or pregnancy lossHusbands searching for language for their griefWives who want to better understand what their partner may be feelingFriends and family members walking alongside loved onesAnyone wrestling with the gap between expectation and reality

More than a story about loss, Not How I Drew It Up is a story about perseverance. It's a reminder that hope can survive disappointment - and that family can be built in more ways than one.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0GPRJ14XV
• ISBN13: 9798993843209
• Release Date: February 2026
• Publisher: Matt Seigel
• Length: 124 Pages
• Weight: 0.39 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.3" x 6.0" x 9.0"