Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me: The Top 25 Friendship Problems and How to Solve Them

by Michele Borba

Do you wish your kid had more friends or could keep the ones she has? Is teasing, gossiping, bullying, or cyber-bullying a problem? Is she often left out or rejected by other kids? Does he just follow the crowd? Are you concerned about his friends? Does she complain that she's unpopular or that nobody likes her? Are you at a loss for how to help your child handle those play dates, sleepovers, being shy, too sensitive, too competitive, or having a...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0787976628
• ISBN13: 9780787976620
• Release Date: March 2005
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass
• Length: 342 Pages
• Weight: 0.82 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.5" x 8.8"

Customer Reviews

An essential tool for raising healthy kids

Nobody Likes Me... is a fabulous book. There is so much emphasis these days placed on teaching kids the 3 R's and preparing them for future careers that many parents don't realize that social competence and confidence are what really enable kids to grow up to be successful and happy people. And, sadly, there are few opportunities for kids to develop these social skills. As the author of Your Children are Under Attack: How Popular Culture is Destroying Your Kids' Values, and How You Can Protect Them (Sourcebooks, 2005), I regularly see a culture of peer pressure, bullying, cliques, social ostracism, and cruelty in schools. Dr. Borba offers parents valuable insights and practical tools they can use to minimize the destructive aspects and maximize the positive aspects of their children's relationships. She shows kids how to develop healthy and safe friendships, and how to avoid the bad roads that popular culture tells them they need to go down to be accepted and popular. Dr. Borba's book is an essential weapon that parents can use in the war against popular culture. Teaching children how to develop and maintain meaningful and lasting friendships, and to gain the skills and confidence in their "social selves" are wonderful gifts that all parents can give their children to lead a successful and happy life. Dr. Borba's book can show the way.

A FABULOUS Resource

I love this book! My girlfriend recommended it because she knew my son was having troubles with bullies and is so sensitive. I think I must own every book on friendship building. But this is the only book that offers me specific suggestions that really are helpful for my child. The format of the book is easy to use -- you don't have to read the whole book!!! You just turn to the problem and find the suggestion that works best for your child. Then you use the friendship skill builder - or what the author says is the most indispensable skill that the child needs to minimize the problem. She's right. Without helping my child learn to use assertive body language, all the comebacks in the world wouldn't have helped him deal with these mean kids. I highly recommend this book - it made a major difference on my child's life.

Really Useful Book

My son's teachers kept telling me my son was overly competitive and bossy -- They said he'd make a great CEO but right now it was really harming his relationship with other kids. They recommended Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me. I have to tell you that I had doubts -- I've tried these parenting books and if you can find one idea that is useful you're jumping up and down. This one really is helpful and simple to do. It's literally filled with ideas you can use to help your child. I read through the two chapters with my son's friendship issues and instantly saw what I was doing wrong. We're now working on the friendship skill builder for bossy and over competitive and the teachers say they've already seen changes with my kid. This is the one parenting book I'd recommend. It works!

Great for helping my daughter with cliques & peer pressure

I was always concerned about my daughter - she's great, wonderful, but is so easily swayed by peers. The chapters in this book on cliques, gossip, and peer pressure are worth the purchase of the whole book. This book is literally filled with actual strategies and ideas to help my daughter REALLY stand up to peers and say no. I highly recommend it. Rarely have I found a book that offers specific ways to arm a kid against that social jungle out there. Highly recommended!!!

Highly Recommended

My child had such problems with being teased and picked on. I was at at loss for how to help him. The chapter on teased was worth the whole book. I opened it and immediately started helping my child learn how to stand up to his teaser. It was easy to do. I loved the easy format - more like a cookbook. THe best thing was when my child came home excited and said "It worked mom," It made the whole thing worth while. Now we're going to start on the chapter on Over sensitive. I highly recommend this book! It really helped make a difference.