Nice Has Limits: Break the People-Pleasing Cycle, Set Boundaries, and Stay True to Yourself Through Guilt, Pushback, and Disappointment

By Markus Grandits

The hardest part is not always the no. It is what happens after.

You set a boundary - and then comes the guilt. You replay the conversation, explain too much, wonder whether you were selfish, or feel the urge to take the boundary back the moment someone looks disappointed.

NICE HAS LIMITS begins exactly there.

People-pleasing is not only about saying yes too quickly. It is also about what happens when you try to stay with an honest decision through guilt, silence, pressure, disappointment, and pushback.

Inside, you will learn how to:

- catch the automatic yes before it takes over
- create space before answering
- say no without writing a novel
- separate guilt from proof that you did something wrong
- handle disappointment and pushback without immediately retreating
- distinguish another person's reaction from your responsibility
- set boundaries that are supported by your behavior
- recover when you fall back into old people-pleasing patterns

The book uses PACES as a simple internal mnemonic:

Pause → Assess the situation → Communicate honestly → Endure the discomfort → Stay with yourself.

With concrete everyday examples, practical exercises, and ready-to-use scripts for family, work, friendship, and close relationships.

You do not have to become less kind. Kindness can be chosen, not automatic.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0HHJ49M95
• ISBN13: 9798171336417
• Release Date: September 2026
• Publisher: Independently Published
• Length: 218 Pages
• Weight: 0.66 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 6.0" x 9.0"