Never the Same: Coming to Terms with the Death of a Parent

by Donna Schuurman

Book Overview

Children and teens who experience the death of a parent are never the same. Only in the last decade have counselors acknowledged that children grieve too, and that unresolved issues can negatively... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0312262108
• ISBN13: 9780312262105
• Release Date: March 2003
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.9" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

never the same

very good book and great seller.. book was as desrcibed and shipped fast and reasonably..

A "Keeper!"

This practical, sensible guide has a permanent place on my bookshelf. Like a stone thrown in a pond, the death of parent will impact a child or teen forever. Anything to ease this process is a gem.

Wow, What a Gem!

Never The Same is a book that weaves a straight talking, light-hearted tone with accurate academic information. My father died when I was eleven and through my subsequent studies, I can see the relevancy of its contents.Dr. Schuurman uses her experience and anecdotes from children and families at the Dougy Center to aid the reader in understanding the bereavement issues discussed.I have shared this book with adults who attend our Center. Overwhelmingly they agree that reading Never the Same sheds light on their childhood history and provides insight into the current (and possibly future) experiences of their bereaved children. One of the best things Shuurman has done is to include questionnaires triggering memories that provide insights. This book is easy to read and written with a hopeful tone.

Turn Off The TV and Read This Book!

I avoided the television Sunday evening and sat down with a book. I spent my time well! I chose Donna Schuurman's new book, Never The Same - Coming To Terms With The Death Of A Parent (from St. Martin's Press, New York, 2003).Adults who have experienced the death of a parent during childhood must read Never The Same. Family members, friends, and support professionals who wish to better understand the impact that parental loss has on children throughout their life should also read Donna's book. This book blends scholarly and anecdotal research with the compassionate exploration of some of the roots of thoughts and feelings experienced by adults who mourn the death of a parent during their early years.Schuurman offers more than a simple list of "here's how you may be affected by the parental death in your past." While reading Donna's book, I felt the two of us were sitting down in a one-on-one relationship, with Donna exploring, coaching, and guiding me along the path of grief.Never The Same reads like a storybook, a textbook, a workbook, and a guidebook -- all in one. The dust cover of the book contains this statement: Although we can't relive childhood, we can choose to live healthier, fuller lives. From opportunities for introspection to the practical suggestions for dealing with childhood loss, Donna Schuurman's book provides tools for healing and moves the reader toward a healthier, fuller life!Danny MizeExecutive Director of The Kids' Place support group center for grieving families in central Oklahoma

Practical and professional with humor and insight,

Those who work with grieving children, live with grieving children or who ARE grieving children within grown-up bodies will benefit from this book. Schuurman has evaluated much, if not all of the research, available on the impact of early parental loss. She condenses academic theory so it can be used easily by anyone working in this field. Of particular help is HER interpretation and explanation of how grieving stage theory is typically misused when working with REAL PEOPLE. For those of us who experienced parental loss before age 19, her approach is conversational and warm but direct. The questionaires are particularly thought AND feeling provoking.Vicki BraunExecutive Director, The Oak Tree Corner Program for Grieving Children DAYTON OH