Loving You, Yo Momma, and Yo Cousin Too: A ReAlVelation(TM) Memoir of Smoke, Grief & Return

By George G Barnes

LOVING YOU, YO MOMMA, AND YO COUSIN TOO (Second Edition) is a ReAlVelation(TM) memoir-raw testimony turned toolset-for the addicted, the grieving, and the almost gone. George "G" Barnes tells the truth in SoulLit Noir cadence: smoke as language, grief as gravity, mercy as method. This upgraded edition locks in The Architect's Full Codex (v3.0) so every chapter isn't just a story-it's a system.

This book doesn't glamorize the high; it translates it. From "So Many Strains" to "One Day (Maybe Tomorrow)," Barnes maps how pain picks our vices, how culture normalizes numbness, and how return happens in small, stubborn choices. You'll learn to stamp your days with TPDA (Did God do, hide, or permit?), track your cravings with TOMA (Craving → Trigger → Choice), and live the Practice & Proof rhythm (AM/MID/PM) until peace feels like home.

What's inside (Second Edition upgrades):
PART I - Smoke Signals (Origin & Escape): why you lit vs. what lit you; grief's first language.
PART II - The Trap Inside the Trap (Grief, Hustle, Consequence): normalization vs. numbness; the dealer's curse; "How Long Will You Mourn?"
PART III - The Middle Mirror (Ambivalence & Return): doors that start you; doors that free you; the hallway between.
PART IV - Altar Work (Practice Over Performance): lukewarm exposed; praying when nothing moves; surrender that sticks.

Interludes & Proof Mechanisms:

Witness Logs (14/30 days): Verse - Counsel - Fruit with V/A scores and recheck stamps.

TOMA Field Notes: three one-minute drills, porch-ready.

TPDA Casebook (Recovery Edition): 3 mini-cases to classify today's moment without drama.

Built-in tools:

Practice & Proof Index: all AM/MID/PM rituals at a glance.

TPDA Case Studies (30/60/90): extended field notes with metrics.

Scripture Page (Ethiopic/LXX): Psalm 51; Sirach 2; Psalm 37:23; Isaiah 58; Joel 2:25; Wisdom 16:12.

Glossary (Porch Definitions).

Therapist's Note - Legendary Edition: grief gets a chair, healing gets a schedule.

Letter for the In-Between: I Still Smoke and I Don't Know If I Should Stop.

Journal Prompts: for the one still healing, still struggling, still showing up.

Resources: helplines, community, books, prayers.

Final Benediction - The Blackout Prayer.

Why this book matters:

Confession with craft: testimony that walks you into repeatable practices.

Receipts over vibes: track soft proof (shorter cravings, quieter shame) and hard proof (money not spent, doors not entered).

Legacy lens: healing as inheritance-your altar outlives your urge.

Measurable change (if practiced):

Day 14: cravings named faster; one boundary holds.

Day 30: fewer "not todays"; first clear anniversary/birthday moment possible.

Day 60: environment edits stick; witness logs show fruit.

Day 90: peace becomes pace; relapse becomes review, not ruin.

Barnes writes like a man forgiven and accountable-poetic-clinical, porch-ready, no fluff. If you've ever wondered how faith and addiction can share a body, this book answers without shaming: lament first, practice daily, keep receipts. You don't feel your way out; you build your way out.

Order here isn't performance-it's mercy learning a schedule.

Publisher

God's Vision Legacy Empire(TM)

Edition Note

Second Edition (BLACKPRINT) - Upgraded with Codex v3.0 frameworks (TPDA/TOMA), Practice & Proof dashboards, Witness Logs, Scripture Page (Ethiopic/LXX), expanded Interludes, and TPDA Case Studies.

Series Motto (optional)

"A book you don't just read-you practice."

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0G152YF4T
• ISBN13: 9798273242197
• Release Date: November 2025
• Publisher: Independently Published
• Length: 198 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 6.0" x 9.0"