This book was recommended by my doctor, even though I'm a man. I have a history dating abusive women and so far, this book is helping. It's written in a friendly, accessible manner. I have been working through it slowly. So far so good!
This little known book will be the last help book u need
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 19 years ago
I bought this book used for ten cents as a joke. I collect "funny" titles of self help books aimed at women, mostly published in the 80's. "Men who hate women, themselves and the world and the women that adore them" type titles, which can get very baroque. Anyway, I happened to browse through the book one day, and it changed my life. I kid you not. These two women psychologists developed a system and an understanding of pattern relationships that is so completely relevant, easy to understand and follow and absolutely life changing that I can't recommend this book enough. I felt chills as I went through their series of questions, and with a little work and analysis, could clearly see a specific and detailed pattern of "sharing" men that had never been evident to me or anyone else who saw me go through one unsatisfying relationship after another. There are several patterns dissected and charted and they are very different, and arise from different sets of childhood circumstances. I felt chills as I truely viewed my relationships objectively for the first time, and knew I had the power to say no to that set of characteristics when it appeared again, which is part of how they recommend breaking the pattern. This was about 3 years ago. I am now 40 and in the best relationship of my life, and on my way to the altar with a man who treats me with love, devotion and respect. Thank you so much to these authors, I don't know who you are or where you are, but you deserve much overdue praise and recognition for your work.
Most helpful book I ever read regarding personal insight.
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 20 years ago
When I read this book, I was 23 years old. I was in a doomed relationship of 2 years, and wanted out. I was sick to death of failed relationships and since I had a child to think of, did not want another failure. I didnt want my failures to affect my (male) child and give him a warped view of how relationships worked. I read this book and found a chapter that showed me EXACTLY what patterns my relationships were following, and not only did it explain WHY I was making these mistakes, but it had helpful suggestions on how to BREAK these patterns. I followed its advice, found a man who loved me unconditionally, had enough patience to let me work through some of my "baggage", and we have been together ever since. We have been together for 15+ years and married over 13 years. I credit this book with bringing these important issues to my attention and helping me to break the cycle of failure in my relationships. I cannot tell you how happy I have been all these years. Highly recommended book.
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