Loving in the Here & Now

By Jane Parsons-Fein

A revolutionary book that helps readers break patterns of the past and create loving relationships. Loving in the Here and Now shows readers how to become conscious of their own and their partner's... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1585423009
• ISBN13: 9781585423002
• Release Date: January 2004
• Publisher: Tarcher
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 1.00 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.3" x 0.9" x 6.2"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Grade 12 and higher

Customer Reviews

Save Thousands On Therapy

If you do even half of the exercises in this book with your wife (or husband or girlfriend or sig. other) you will feel a huge change. Just learning to untie the relationship knots by "shifting out of the family trance" is enough to open your relationship up and move past those big dumb blockages we get stuck in. My wife is halfway through this book, and we've done the exercises for five nights, and we really turned a corner. Hopefully it'll stick. (We skipped some of the stuff that's too deep.) Last time we were in therapy we just yelled at each other. This feels much more healthy, not to mention the money we're saving!

An eye opener

This is an excellent book that presents a unique way of understanding oneself and relationships. Parsons-Fein explains how, without realizing it, we are shifting states of awareness throughout the day, and that everyday we naturally move in and out of trance states many of which are positive - some of our best and most creative moments. She explains therapeutic hypnosis, everyday trance, and the unconscious in terms that are down-to-earth and understandable. This idea that we are naturally shifting in and out of trance states I found to be extremely interesting, but there is a lot more in this book. The author explains how painful relationship patterns are most productively understood as negative trance states that were initially formed and learned in childhood. She teaches the reader to recognize these negative trance reactions and painful patterns of relating when they are happening in current relationships. She provides methods and guidance to do the detective work necessary in order to discover the childhood experiences and influences at the root of these painful states. Most importantly, she teaches self-hypnosis methods by which you can, with practice, learn to shift out of these negative trance reactions, bypass them in the future, and discover new and more joyful ways of relating with your partner. She also teaches about positive, creative, trance and how it can be used to enhance intimacy, sexuality, self-exploration and healing. The self-hypnosis exercises do take some practice, and the questionnaires do take work and time, but doing them takes the value of the book to a whole other level. Also, the tone of the writing is suffused with love, compassion, and hopefulness about people and their capacity to grow. In short, there is a lot in this book, and I continue to get a lot out of it. I highly recommend it not only to people who want to improve their relationships but to people who are curious about themselves.