Living with Your Husband's Secret Wars

by Marsha Means

Offers proactive steps to a wife who is devastated when she discovers her husband is entangled in sexual sin.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0800757106
• ISBN13: 9780800757106
• Release Date: October 1999
• Publisher: Fleming H. Revell Company
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.5"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

At last...

At last a book that really speaks to my heart. This book covers so many of the different types of sexual addiction out there. Yes, it does have a Christian foundation in the recovery process, but that is what I needed. When testimonials are given by other women, they speak to my heart and help with the grief. Sexual addiction is a struggle of morality. It violates our wedding vows, it makes you wonder who you have been lying next to in bed, going to church with, and eating family dinners with. This book has helped me understand this is not my problem, but I can be there for him. So many books send the message that it's his problem so I should go off and take care of myself, to heck with him. This book gives a hope to repair my broken heart and be there for him.

Great book for partner's of sexual addicts

This book was one of the few I had found that address sexual addiction from the woman's point of view. It addresses the discovery of the addiction and how to get help for yourself and for the addict. There are a lot of references in the directory and there is also a chapter on how to begin group therapy for the woman. Great book-very enlightening!

Honesty is scary

As a Christian this is one of the books I've read on sexual addiction that has caused me to look at myself and how I am not being honest with God or myself. Having a spouse with this addiction is shameful to them and yourselves. This book helps to give steps to feel it, deal with it, and get past it. But you have to be ready to honest with yourself.

The way to healing

IN the last year I have read many books on this subject. This is the best one so far written for the wives of sexual addicts. It does not focus on HIS problem, the why's and how's of his motives and recovery. It is not written in a way that caused me to relive the pain through the stories of other women's pain. It has helped me to see a way for MY recovery from the pain his addiction has caused. To see hope and healing no matter what the outcome of the relationship. It is filled with stories of other women who had made through to the other side of this awful journey. As well as comments from the husbands that hurt them. Some remained married, some didn't, but all found healing. The strong biblical basis is exactly what I needed. It was practical, encouraging, honest, and very helpful. It will lead YOU on the road to recovery from the betrayl and suffering caused by your husbands infidelity.

Right ON

I was so relieved to find this book. My husband has struggled with sexual addiction since before our marriage. It is such a confusing subject, especially in todays accepting society. I was so thankful to know the truth concerning the damage pornography has on intimate relationships. It is a relief to find such honesty. Women discuss the pain this type of addiction has caused them. I now know that my feelings are valid and I am not crazy to be upset about my husband's use of pornography. It has and is doing real damage to all concerned. I am seeking help now for codependancy on my part. The book reccomends paths to healing which I am eager to begin. Thanks Marsha!