Life as a Mother-In-Law: Roles, Challenges, Solutions

By Jean Kubelun, Olivia Slaughter, Olivia Slaughter

Life as a mother-in-law is rarely easy...and until now, it was hard to find an instruction book But help has arrived in the form of this accessible, informative, and eminently useful guide. Written by two psychologists (and mothers-in-law), and brimming with wisdom gleaned from a wide-ranging survey of other mothers-in-law, Life as a Mother-in-law is the essential primer for navigating the often murky waters of in-law relationships. With a look at the mother-in-law role throughout history and the truth behind the stereotypes, the authors separate myth from reality and deconstruct clich s to reveal how in-law families really work. But Olivia Slaughter, Ph.D., and Jean Kubelun, Ph.D., don't just describe the challenges: they provide in-depth solutions, self-assessment tools, and solid advice based on psychological insights to help you bring harmony and balance to your in-law relationships-and your life. Olivia Slaughter, Ph.D., is a Licensed Educational Psychologist and career counselor. Her experience includes teaching, secondary school counseling, administration, school psychology, and national and international educational consulting. She offers guidance in life planning, parenting, learning, and interpersonal relationships. Dr. Slaughter has been active in providing workshop/in-service training events, including UNICEF in Alexandria, Egypt, where she was a school consultant under USAID sponsorship. She lives with her husband in California. Jean Kubelun, Ph.D., is a Marriage, Family Therapist and a Licensed Educational Psychologist who studied psychoanalytic psychotherapy at the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis. Dr.Kubelun's experience includes over twenty-three years as a school psychologist. She taught both graduate and undergraduate classes at California Lutheran University and California State University, Northridge. Dr.Kubelun has worked as a Conflict Resolution Specialist, an At-Risk Counselor, and an Active Parenting workshop leader and trainer.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1598584510
• ISBN13: 9781598584516
• Release Date: April 2008
• Publisher: Dog Ear Publishing
• Length: 200 Pages
• Weight: 0.54 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.0" x 8.0"

Customer Reviews

A must read for all mother- in -law's!

I loved this book! It provided simple, realistic, effective advice for any mother -in -law. The authors share insight,understanding ,compassion regarding the role of the mother -in -law. They do not "leave you hanging" with great information but no solutions. The solutions are the best part of the book. I have given ,with confidence, the gift of this book(with their permission)to friends. If you desire to be a great mother -in -law or just want to understand this new role I highly recommend Life As A Mother-In-Law. a.hunt

Practical Advice

Girlfriends. We rely on our girlfriends for practical > advice. We have <br />> done this throughout our lives. As children, as teens, as <br />> newlyweds and <br />> as mothers. Life as a Mother-in-Law is a well written book <br />> that made me <br />> feel like I was sitting in a room with my girlfriends <br />> discussing the <br />> next passage in life. Being a mother-in-law. The short <br />> stories, <br />> experiences and advice shared in this easy to read book, <br />> feels like a <br />> support team bringing me to the next stage. This book is a <br />> "must read" <br />> for potential and new mother-in laws. I have shared this <br />> book with my <br />> girlfriends who are entering the next stage and it has been <br />> greatly <br />> appreciated. <br />>

Life as a Mother-in-Law

Although I have not had the opportunity to experience the in-law role, I was delighted to read Life as a Mother-in-Law. The authors of this book have done extensive research on in-law relationships, and in a clear and enjoyable writing style, have presented valuable information on how to deal with many of these complex issues. They address topics such as respect, boundaries, communication, etc. which help to further understanding and enhance relationships. Reading this served as a good reminder about skills that are useful in every day encounters. We can always use a relationship tune up! Any member of the family can benefit from reading this book as they will gain the perspective of others and will be given tools that benefit any relationship. I am confident that Life as a Mother-in-Law would serve as a welcome gift to both the newlyweds and parents who are entering the in-law role.

Practical advice.

I was immediately drawn to the cover of this book - calm and inviting. Life as a Mother-in-Law is a detailed map through what can be difficult terrain especially for the mothers of sons. The authors, who are psychologists and mothers-in-law, collected the real stories of dozens of women to explore the challenges that often arise as families blend and grandchildren arrive. This book provides useful strategies that encourage positive in-law relationships as well as specific steps to help each one of us as individuals to develop an interesting and fulfilling rest of our lives. I am following some of these suggestions and have been surprised by what I have discovered about myself and my personal priorities. I appreciate the practical and honest approach of this book. I highly recommend it.

AN ESSENTIAL GUIDE FOR ONE OF LIFE'S MOST CHALLENGING ROLES

Life as a Mother-in-Law is an essential guide to understanding the complexities and emotional pitfalls of being a mother-in-law, a role almost every woman takes sometime in her life. We all hate the stereotype and are determined not to fall into it, but it isn't that simple. Through historic perspective and the captivating personal stories of dozens of women, the authors discuss why a child's marriage brings joy but also deep feelings of loss - feelings that can spawn the "monster-in-law" lurking within us all. I became a mother-in-law recently and was surprised how overwhelming the changes felt. Having raised my son (and only child) mostly as a single mom, I'm probably a prime candidate for "monsterdom." Now I have a shield in this powerful book. I keep it close and refer to it often. The lesson is to love through balance and harmony, stepping back, letting go, and cherishing the trade off - freedom to follow my own somewhat neglected dreams and goals. Healthy relationships and self-nurturing - and written as if two highly trained professional women moved into the neighborhood and offered you advice across the kitchen table. This book is a treasure!