Lessons from the Therapy Room
Beware of thinking that you fully understand your client. Duncan Kitchin
No training course can teach you what thirty years in the therapy room can. In this collection of 91 candid, hard-won reflections, veteran psychotherapist and clinical supervisor Duncan Kitchin shares the wrinkles, wisdom, and unspoken truths that shaped his three-decade career - the things his supervisees kept telling him they wished someone had taught them.
From the first "What shall I call you?" to the final, unpredictable goodbye, Kitchin walks through the real texture of practice: the addictions clients never mention in the initial meeting, the questions therapists don't ask about sex, and the silent signals of a room's decor, a client's coat, or the things a therapist notices without ever being told. He writes with equal honesty about breakthroughs and about the moments that stopped him in his tracks - a question that unravelled a client's sense of home, the client who told him he'd never make a therapist if he let clients upset him, and thirty years of learning why she was wrong.
This is not a textbook of theory, but a book of practical, DIY craft - the kind of insight usually passed on quietly, one supervision session at a time. Warm, wry, and unflinchingly honest, it's essential reading for trainee and practising therapists alike, and a rare, humane window for anyone curious about what really happens on the other side of the therapy room door.
Testimonials
"An extraordinary collection of clinical stories and wisdom that every in-training or practising therapist needs on their shelf. Written with a unique voice, Duncan shares three decades of profound insights with humility, humour, and humanity. While manuals tell us what to do, this book teaches us how to be. It captures the exquisite, messy, unquantifiable magic that happens when theory ends, and human connection takes over. The beauty of this collection lies in its vulnerability. By demystifying the myth of the 'perfect' therapist and exposing his own missteps and uncertainties, Duncan achieves something rare, he alleviates the lonely burden of the practitioner and replaces it with a sense of shared, trusted companionship. You don't just read this book; you sit with it." Helen Bishop, Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor, Former Trustee of Kingston Women's Centre
"No training course, however rigorous, can fully prepare a therapist for what unfolds in the room, only lived experience. This is an essential manual sprinkled liberally with pearls of wisdom, reminding us that we are all human, we can all make mistakes, and must approach each client, each session, anew- the truest lessons from the therapy room." Stephanie Rotherham. Therapist, Clinical Supervisor and ex-Head of BA Integrative Relational Counselling, Kingston College.
"A real page-turner." Bonnie Groves. Counsellor in Private Practice
Customer Reviews
ThriftBooks ® and the ThriftBooks ® logo are registered trademarks of Thrift Books Global, LLC
