Children love their parents? and parents love their children, most of the time. One might imagine that this relationship is the closest and most intimate of all, but that is rarely the case. So many are painful and tense or superficial and most of us resign ourselves to the idea that it can be no other way.
Isabelle Filliozat proposes that we attempt an authentic encounter with our parents. Without authenticity, love is impossible. Is it really necessary to dig up the past when faced with so much resistance?
The author insists that reconciliation cannot exist without the expression of suffering. Wounds must be displayed, misunderstandings explained, anger must be voiced and heard in order for healing to take place. Reconciliation is born of mutual empathy.
Why should we accept a superficial relationship when it is possible, in most cases, to (re)create intimacy and understanding?