It Was Real & It Fucking Hurt: Decoding Covert Narcissistic Abuse Understanding the Invisible Emotional and Psychological Damage (No One Will Believe You– A Survivor Series)

By Daniel Harper

This book is not about monsters.

It's about systems.

The quiet ones.
The polite ones.
The ones that don't leave bruises but still dismantle you piece by piece.

If you've ever struggled to explain why a relationship felt wrong - even when nothing obvious looked abusive - this book is for you.

In It Was Real & It Fucking Hurt, Daniel Harper breaks down the mechanics of covert narcissistic abuse: how it begins without drama, how responsibility slowly shifts onto you, and how confusion becomes the tool that keeps you trapped. There are no pop-psych labels, no armchair diagnoses, and no demands for forgiveness - only clear pattern recognition drawn from lived experience and behavioural insight.

This book doesn't ask you to relive your pain.
It helps you finally understand it.

You won't find motivational slogans here.
What you'll find is clarity - and the quiet relief of realising that what you experienced wasn't imagined, exaggerated, or your fault.

Because once abuse is named accurately, it can no longer hide.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0GL2N1BJL
• ISBN13: 9798246472705
• Release Date: February 2026
• Publisher: Independently published
• Length: 160 Pages
• Weight: 0.50 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.4" x 6.0"