Isn't It Their Turn to Pick Up the Check?: Dealing with All of the Trickiest Money Problems Between Family and Friends--From Serial Borrowers to Serio

by Jeanne Fleming and Leonard Schwarz

Your next-door neighbor's two-year-old broke your most expensive vase, and your neighbor hasn't offered to replace it. Your best friend expects you to shop at the boutique she just opened, though her very pricey clothes look terrible on you. And your sister says she needs $1,500 to send her child to creativity camp, but you think what your sister needs is a job. What do you do?

Such tricky and emotionally charged dilemmas involving money are...

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1416542000
• ISBN13: 9781416542001
• Release Date: January 2008
• Publisher: Free Press
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 5.5" x 7.8"

Customer Reviews

don't lend this to anyone.

this is a funny but also serious read. it gives advice on all borrowing, to dining with cheapskates. if you lend this book to anyone in the borrower or cheapskate category, make sure you get a deposit from them. preferably the same amount the book cost, because you will probably never get it back and have to buy a new one.

Great book!

This is a great book for anyone with a friend or family member that has money issues that they can't keep to themselves (in other words, it's a great book for just about everyone!). I highly recommend it.

Wonderful advice on avoiding financial disputes with friends and family!

We all face problems with friends and relatives in borrowing and lending money. Bequests and gifts can also lead to acrimony that shatters families and friendships. This book explains, with humor, common sense, and the results of well-thought out surveys, how to resolve those issues and, more importantly, how to avoid them in the first place. I highly recommewnd it to anyone who wants to avoid the friction and ill will that can result from dealing with the everyday money matters we face in our daily lives.

an amazing guide for the money and ethics issues that plague us all

I am part of the camp of people who are often flummoxed over money issues concerning family/friends/co-workers/neighbors/etc. Reading the insights in this book about all-too-familiar situations compels me to have it on my person at all times. The book includes questions and advice a la Dear Abby but is of course about all the gray areas we encounter when we loan/borrow money, break or make fiscal promises, inherit (or hope to) money - you name the situation, and it's in the book! What's particularly fascinating is that authors Fleming and Schwarz include quick snippets of research results (most of the research they conducted themselves) about people's experiences and attitudes around specific money and ethics situations. The data isn't so heavy-handed that you feel like you're reading a social-psych book. Most of all though, I love the no-nonsense advice that was also peppered with humor and wit. Makes for a really fun read.

Entertaining and highly useful book!

I have been relishing this wonderfully insightful, entertaining book about the financial quandaries and quagmires you can find yourself in with friends and family members. The book is handily organized, and offers marvelous coverage, so that you can dip into it, if you have a specific question, or enjoy reading it from start to finish. The section on bequests is so far possibly my favorite, although a close second is the one about inequity of wealth among friends, and the problems that can arise because of this. I recommend this book wholeheartedly for anyone who's ever wondered about the ethics of a dilemma, large or small, over money matters. The authors are immensely knowledgeable, witty, and thoughtful. Just the thing for the New Year!