Is It a Date or Just Coffee?: The Gay Girl's Guide to Dating, Sex, and Romance

By Mo Brownsey

Book Overview

In this guidebook for the romantically inclined lesbian who can't take one more psychotic date, Mo Brownsley, understanding that love involves equal parts romance, lust and neuroses, guides readers... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1555837271
• ISBN13: 9781555837273
• Release Date: January 2002
• Publisher: Alyson Books
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.50 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.3" x 7.9"

Customer Reviews

A Side Dish of Laughs

Valley Gay Press Book Reviewer: Liz Bradbury A step by step guide to "gay girls" dating, sex and romance. Just broke up or got dumped? You need this book, because good advice is better served with a side dish of laughs. Mo Brownsey, long time comedian and lesbian studies college professor writes a humor filled book, packed with information lesbian and bisexual women really need. Speaking from vast experience, she starts right out with sage `after-breakup' advice: Take her number off the speed dial! Then deftly covers: baby dykes (yes, they're too young for you), on-line dating (why it frequently doesn't work), the L-word (love), polyamory (not for Mo) and a host of other topics. Brownsey is the kind of friend who'd not only grab you by the lapels and exclaim, "Snap out of it!" But she'd explain how over pizza until you felt better. If don't have a friend like that, get this book.

Winner of the WordWeaving Award for Excellence

Forty years of heterosexual living did not prepare me for the dilemma of discerning IS IT A DATE OR JUST COFFEE when I started dating women. Well, perhaps dating was too strong a word since it always seems to turn out to be coffee. When straight gals meet straight guys, they know what to expect. With gay-gal dating, they seem to be showering together before reaching a consensus as to whether or not they are friends or something more. Fortunately, Mo Brownsey takes some of the confusion out gay-gal dating with her wonderful book.From being single, relationships, breakups and mourning, Brownsey covers it all. Need help identifying the dreaded lesbian bed death? Not sure if it's lust or love? Considering multiple partner relationships? Mo supplies the answers along with tongue-in-cheek comedy that will keep you howling with laughter no matter where you are concerning gay-gal relationships. I admit to suffering from STD myself (Sexually Transmitted Denial). For gals like me who find themselves in the midst of redefining their sexuality, and refuse to take the whole dating thing too seriously, Mo Brownsey's book is the definitive answer for the basics of gay-gal dating. Her comedic approach to relationships, breakups, recovery and sex is an indispensable guide for those new to this lifestyle as well as gay-gals who've always know that they weren't straight but love a good laugh. Indeed, straight or lesbian, all women will find themselves in this remarkably astute book. IS IT A DATE OR JUST COFFEE earns the WordWeaving Award for Excellence.

Entertaining and well-written!

I originally read a review for this in the Gay & Lesbian section of London's Time Out magazine and just had to pick it up! The only thing that frustrated me was that it seems to be more aimed toward the experienced Lesbian/Bisexual woman than toward newcomers to the scene. However, it is a witty commentary on and guide to same-sex girl relationships and I thought that overall it was a great read. Reading the book really makes me want to see Mo live! This is less a resource guide than a tongue-in-cheek commentary on all aspects of Lesbian singlehood, relationships and dating. A good read for anyone with a sense of humor..gay or straight.

Tongue-in-cheek guidebook written by a gay gal, for gay gals

Mo Brownsey's Is It A Date Or Just Coffee?: The Gay Girl's Guide To Dating, Sex, And Romance is a practical guide, laced with wry humor, about countless problems, confusing questions, and delicate issues of lesbian dating, sex, and romance. From distinguishing between potential lovers and just plain friends, to monogamy vs. polyamory, to the special hurdles of the bisexual and the bi-curious, Is It A Date Or Just Coffee? doesn't have the answers to everything but does have opinions, suggestions, and simple advice for just about anything. Is It A Date Or Just Coffee is a highly recommended, gently-mannered, tongue-in-cheek guidebook written by a gay gal, for gay gals.

THIS BOOK ROCKS!

I swear to you, I only put this book down long enough to take care of bodily functions. I laughed so hard in the middle of the night while devouring this book (along with some rice pudding) that I frightened my pets. But I told them all about it and even they laughed...especially my girl puppy! Professor Brownsey writes with an incomparable stinging wit tinged with crackling cynicism, yet she remains on the high road, without resorting to meanness or derogatory passages...even through her hilarious self-deprecating stories. The words are true; the very essence of this book feels so real, so right, and so very funny. Mo has hit the nail right on the head with this collection of essays. I predict great success and fame for her. It is FABULOUS...I promise, you'll be recommending it to all your friends!