If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules: 10 Rules for Finding Love and Creating Long-Lasting, Authentic Relationships

by Cherie Carter-Scott

Book Overview

Do you wish you knew the rules for the game of love? In her #1 New York Times bestsellerIf Life Is a Game, These Are the Rules, Ch?rie Carter-Scott gave us ten rules for conquering life's challenges... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0767904249
• ISBN13: 9780767904247
• Release Date: October 1999
• Publisher: Broadway Books
• Length: 272 Pages
• Weight: 0.75 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.8" x 7.0"

Customer Reviews

Great book! Not boring at all...

(Sorry, English is not my mother-tongue.) This is a great relationship-book! You won't find boring advice that you need to be supportive to your partner, you need to cherish him / her as often you could... but straightly to the point, Cherie will tell you that you need to differentiate being supportive and controlling... etc. Those things commonly happened in our relationships, and it's nice to have someone reminded us to be a better person for our beloved one. Worth to collect. Recommended for you who're still single, also for married couple. I'm finished reading this book, but I still use this book as reference, when I feel my relationship start getting trouble. And however, it helps!

If Love is a Game here are the Rules

This was a really good book. It gave me a lot of good insight on what to look for in a spouce. It also taught me some things about myself. I recommend this book to anyone who seem to be finding love in all the wrong places.

MEN TAKE NOTE

As a man, I am critical of some of the self-help books written by women. Invariably, I find elements that either misrepresent men's attitudes or totally ignore them. "If Love Is A Game, These Are The Rules," is a wonderful exception. Every man interested in learning how to find and maintain a long-lasting relationship should read this book. More importantly, it should be read, reread and discussed by both partners, as often as questions or issues arise in the relationship. Cherie Carter Scott doesn't mince words; examples are short and to the point; each chapter covers a major rule so it is easy to follow and return to for a refresher. Too many of us, men and women, have been too ignorant, too disinterested, too willing to enter relationships based upon the wrong assumptions and expectations. This book lights the path towards establishing relationships that can grow and withstand the changes time will inevitably bring. Good luck...

Love Potion # 8

At times, even the most successful people in business... can be failures at love. That's often because, once the web has been spun, the enchantment put in place, that spell we call "love" has been cast, people usually throw all cares to the wind in hope of finding something that is everlasting. In the follow-up book to her widely acclaimed title, "If Life is a Game, These are the Rules", Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott has identified some basic knowledge that can help a person find, create and maintain authentic, long-lasting relationships. Some of these truisms may seem familiar, but as is the case with her other titles, a reader is bound to find a gem of wisdom, or two that may change their perspective and impact their lives.Like many other types of relationships, Dr. Carter identifies the element of 'excellent communication' as a necessary ingredient to success. Knowing what you want to communicate, 'releasing' the emotion surrounding the message you wish to convey, expressing your feelings without passing judgement, and choosing a right time and place are details that are commonly highlighted in this book. In fact, communication is a common denominator that is weaved throughout this title.An interesting chapter is entitled 'Partnering is a Choice'. It seems simple enough, yet it is extremely powerful to understand that the choice to be in a meaningful relationship is up to you and you alone. Some people may have some kind of a mental block or fear. Fear of losing his/ her bachelorhood, fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear of being hurt, fear that they'll end up divorced like their parents, fear... fear... fear. It is this fear that projects the kind of energy that attracts the wrong type of people, and it is up to each of us individually to recognize this process and redirect the course we are navigating. To find a soulmate, one must address their fears, accept and love themselves, and make a conscious decision to be receptive to a significant other.Once you have found someone, the real work has just begun. The author spells out the importance of nurturing your relationship in Chapter 8, in what's, arguably, the best part of the sermon. As we know, many relationships lose their 'shine' or luster when both parties get so involved with their every day life that they lose the perspective of what brought them together in the first place. The author reminds us that relationships are like gardens... ever growing and requiring attention. We need to make a conscious decision to tend to our 'garden' on a daily basis. Try and have a daily check in, the author suggests. In fact, it is prescribed that couples should schedule a periodical relationship tune-up. This is a time when both parties can express how they feel about their relationship, their needs and wants. A time to basically just step outside and analyze what components of the relationship bring a couple happiness, and where they feel some areas m

A most insightful, thought provoking and helpful book

I found this book to be a clear and fun read. It really helped educate me on love. Relationships are ever changing ever evolving and having the knowledge of If love is a game these are the rules makes me a better educated person who loves and in loved. Every one should read this book.