If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever

by Susan Page and Page

Book Overview

Susan Page's bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies. At the heart... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0609809091
• ISBN13: 9780609809099
• Release Date: March 2002
• Publisher: Harmony
• Length: 352 Pages
• Weight: 0.85 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 5.5" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

Ignore the title

There are two kinds of self-help books: ones that encourage you to look inside and to change yourself and ones that promise you that by modifying your behavior you can change your life. The first kind inspires you and makes you grow - the latter makes you stagnate. The first kind doesn't make you feel good - it makes you think. The second kind makes you feel good temporarily (because, while you are reading it, you are carried away by its promises of easy solutions), but doesn't change anything - neither inside you nor in your life. This book is of the first kind. It promotes awareness and honesty to oneself and others instead of using tricks and schemes. It helps you answer the question - why are you alone. It encourages you to look for a partner and advises you how. And doesn't let you settle for less.

Wonderful Reading if You Don't Want to Stay Single...

I've always read lots of books about singles and how to find a mate, and that rate has sped up since I'm now a Romance Coach. But somehow I had missed Susan Page's "If I'm So Wonderful, Why am I Still Single?" even though it has been out since 1998, the last year I was single myself. Where have I been, and why hadn't I seen this book? Susan Page writes for "involuntary singles" -- straight, gay, male or female, each and every one of us who is single and wishes we weren't. Relentlessly positive, she starts off right to the point with "So why are you still single anyway?" And then, just when we've gotten over that shock, she states flatly:"Whatever your reasons are for being single, if you want to be in a relationship, no reason is good enough." Then Page goes about tearing apart every good reason we've ever come up with to keep ourselves single. Here's what Page takes on and turns around: Ambivalence (my favorite), those "Dreadful Statistics," the myth of "There are no good ways to meet people," and having and keeping high standards. Then she works on developing skills in what she calls "Frog kissing": Learning to say no, how to recognize true intimacy, avoiding "commitmentphobes," handling the intimacy gap, and learning to say "yes." And in the last section, "Keeping It All Together While You Look," Page tells you just how to do all that. This is easily the best, most thorough, rounded and positive book about relationships and dating I have seen. If you are one of Page's "involuntary singles," this book needs to be in your library. Five chocolate dipped strawberries for Susan Page! This is quite a book.

Reminded me that I'm special, and validated my desires.....

I don't know how many guys read books like this, and maybe i should be embarrased that i do, but anyhow, here goes: the nicesist thing in this book for me, was the reminding, (maybe reframing) Me, as being still single at 32 not because there's something wrong, but because i'm unique and valuable, and thus left with a smaller number of good matches to match up with.Being reminded that the rewards for finding someone 'on my level', who i can talk with, be with and truly enjoy, the rewards of a MUTUALY SATISFYING MARRIAGE, are worth the work and wait, AND, that this is possible.Now i'm definately motivated. My only criticism of the book from my personal perspective, is, after reading it, i still feel a bit lost. Ok, this wonderful woman is out there waiting for me somewhere, but, how EXACTLY do i go about finding her. What are my steps RIGHT NOW.

Tired of crummy relationship books? Here's the cure.

I almost didn't pick up this book, due to its obnoxious title. What a misfortune that would have been for me. Recently divorced, I was confronted by a sea of tomes claiming that they could help me to find a lasting love. However, at the time, I was finishing a Ph.D. in psychology, and I could see that most of the popular books were actually filled with terrible advice--especially the advice to "settle" and accept that "you can't always have what you want" in love.Today, I own a business in which I assist clients in finding and using research-based techniques to bring them a lifetime love, one they enthuse about and can't get enough of. Although I base much of my guidance of clients upon scientific research, it's also wonderful when I can locate that rare self-help book whose advice is worthwhile and is supported by the research. Many popular press books lead the reader astray, because they rely solely on the author's opinion...but my reading of the relevant research shows that Susan Page's book is truly on the mark and advises the use of techniques that will, when consistently applied, result in you, yes you, finding the love of your life! I speak from personal experience, and not only from the dry, academic air of the library. Before beginning my business, I tested Page's ideas and recommendations in my own life. Today, and in no small part due to her book, I am married to the love of my life, a "catch" by anyone's standards, who adores me with all his heart. He, too, refused to "settle," so we were available when we met. Almost every day, one or the other of us remarks that we must truly be the world's luckiest couple. However, it's a "luck" that really has more to do with persistence and patience, just as Page writes. Sure, using Page's techniques took a bit of effort--all learning does--but the reward has been the most fulfilling adventure that my husband and I have ever encountered.May each person reading this message find his or her own true love. I cannot encourage you strongly enough to let Susan Page's expert advice be part of your process in attaining that.

A break-through book

Despite a title that makes you want to cover the book in brown paper, I found this book to be one of the most insightful on the subject. It helped me clarify what I'm looking for in a mate and has helped me avoid "Better-Than-Nothing" relationships. I highly recommend it for the recently divorced, as it will help them understand why they married as they did. The subject of hidden ambivalence was the most insightful. Now that I've resolved my own ambivalence, I can usually identify it in others. I especially found the straightforward and pragmatic approach to dating to be results-producing. If every single person read this book, we'd have more well-suited marriages!