Ingrid raised her four boys, and came to the realization of her role as their father, she some time stayed in that role way longthan she should. She has taken time to write the pro and cons of her journey into fatherhood when she wants to be a mother. She has chronicle the feeling and theroller coaster of emotionsthat it takes to make successful men out of the boys.
Ingrid journey though seen successful, as her boys are upstanding member of the community. It has been a tough for her to learn, and had finally accepted the failure and disappointments her sons expressed their hurt. She has chronicle the revelation of, her journey of bring the boys to manhood.
She struggled with the dual gender role she found herself in, there was conflict that was exposed to her, as the boys reached manhood, dealing with the truths that was revealed, I know I was never a good father. Ingrid has written about been robbed of being a mother to my boys, when a mother take on the role of a father the children are not given, the tender, comforting moment a mother is. She having to take on a masculine role, her feminine energy was off to often
Ingrid is willing to bring to the forefront the things that was revealed on this journey of fatherhood. She lived in constant fear of failure, losing any one of them to the street or to the judicial system. She never was a good father and fall short of being a great mother.