How to Please a Woman in & Out of Bed

by Daylle Deanna Schwartz

Book Overview

How to Please a Woman In & Out of Bed is the perfect book for any man who wants to turn up the heat in his relationship. It tells you what women really want from their men--and shows you how to please a woman without sacrificing one bit of your masculinity. By learning three key elements--compassion, communication, and "technique"--you'll learn to get everything you ever wanted out of a woman--both in and out of bed--without arguing, manipulating,...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1593372906
• ISBN13: 9781593372903
• Release Date: May 2005
• Publisher: Adams Media Corporation
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.8" x 8.7"

Customer Reviews

Great book for a healthy realationship

This is a terrific book! I bought one for a married friend who was having some communication issues with her husband and one for my husband and myself. The book does not bash men, rather it explains differences between men and women. It teaches men to treat their woman in a way that would be pleasing to a woman. This book has been the impetus for many great conversations and can only help to improve a realationship, particularly one with an already strong foundation. Men need a little coaching and this book does so in a non-preachy, non-judgmental way.

Finally a book that's informing me enough to let me drop a lot of fear and anxiety

I'm 22 and have never had a girlfriend. Part of that is simply not being around a lot of people (especially girls) my age (homeschooled untill college). So not only was i introverted and socially not developed, but i had zero experience with only the insight of my sister to help me along some. Now i've met someone who i truly adore but i didn't know what to do and was scared. I was scared to touch her, i didnt know how to compliment her at all, and i had trouble conversing with her. A lot of that has passed with time and patience on her part through our friendship and a lot of self examination on mine. She knows i like her and i think that part of the reason she's not quite there yet is the way i suck at communicating what i need to. I almost put this book back on the shelf after thinking it was going to be all about trying to score, but it isn't. It's about breaking down walls of confusion, frustration, miscommunication, and fear. I am about half-way through this book and so far it's been very helpful with basic communications rules of thumb, as well as helping me understand her a bit better. It's also helping me to begin to touch her more in pretty casual ways. She is different in some aspects emotionally from other girls and actually has some generally male emotional tendencies, and i realised that i had some generally female emotional tendencies. She will express anger which i admire, but i will get sad for getting angry and i have trouble releasing it. You wouldnt think someone (me) who consistently played sports for more than a decade would be that way! I also realised that i did not hug and embrace like close girlfriends do to each other because guys don't really do that, and that i'm not messed up or abnormal for feeling a little neglected when girls don't hug me (no i'm not an obese troll, i've been told by multiple girls that i am attractive). I've also always been piss poor at complimenting women because i was always afraid of them thinking i was trying to get some when i just wanted to compliment them and admire their beauty. This is helping me move past that, and helping me convey how i appreciate her. With any luck this book will have helped me finally get a truly wonderful young woman.

Pretty good

Any book that honestly attempts to bridge the desires and expectations of men and women is a good thing in my opinion.Most of Daylle Schwartz's book deals with pleasing women "out of bed," which I think is for the best. Towards the end, she transfers the common sense suggestions she's made for listening to attending to the needs of women to the realm of the bedroom.Basically what it comes down to is that to be a decent lover, a man shouldn't be wanting to learn bedroom tricks, but rather should be willing to be a friend to the all of the woman that he loves.It's not the most comprehensive or perfect book, but I think there's plenty of information and ideas about what women want that any man can benefit from.

A must read!

If I'd had this book a few years ago, I'd still be married to the woman I love. When I read Daylle's practical words, I saw all the things I did wrong flash before me in neon lights. Back then I was so busy trying to avoid dealing with problems that I ignored the simple things that could have kept my marriage solid. I see all the things my wife complained about in a new light. Now I understand what she needed. She talked and talked and I heard it in another language. Now I get it. I thought my wife was asking for too much. Had I read this book sooner, I could have pleased her without so much work. I wish I'd had the connection ideas cause that was what she was asking for when I made fun of her for wanting too much attention. If I'd understood her body then, I could have kept her much happier in bed. Instead I was one of those guys Daylle refers to who just mush around and hope for the best. I thought satisfying her was impossible so I didn't bother to try other ways. I've tried some of the in bed techniques on the woman I'm seeing and I felt like a more confident lover. She really responded. This book explains how many women think and how we often interpret women incorrectly. I hope that someday I'll meet a woman like my wife that I'll want to use everything I've learned on. This book can definitely make a difference in how you see and handle women. Should be required reading before you get too involved.

I feel more confident now!

My sister gave me this book and I balked. Felt funny reading it. But Daylle makes sense. I felt like she was writing it to me. I knew a lot of what she writes about but it was the way she said it that made it click. I recognized myself in many parts, especially the chapter on emotions. I didn't like what I read but know it's true. Daylle's goal is to help men understand why women need things from us that we hate giving. I've always resented when a woman pushed for compliments or expressions of feelings. First the first time I really understand how much upbringing is responsible. She's right. Neither sex asked to be how they are. I've begun to see my current woman differently and am slowly doing some of what I learned. The emphasis on creating connections was a great lesson. I am seeing that what Daylle calls "the little things" can go far. They take little effort and make her happier and more agreeable. I've already tried some of the suggestions for better sex and they work. I have a much more responsive partner already, and she seems to be wanting it more. Daylle doesn't emphasize crazy positions or anything unusual. She did help me understand better how a woman's body operates and how much I can do to make my partner want me more. This book is definitely worth the read! Whatever tips you can use will make your life with women better.