How to Keep Your C.O.O.L with Your Kids: Learning

By Lou Makarowski

A noted psychologist and syndicated columnist argues that self-control is the secret of establishing a happy relationship between kids and parents, explaining how parents can handle misbehavior by... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0399519912
• ISBN13: 9780399519918
• Release Date: April 1996
• Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
• Length: 1 Pages
• Weight: 0.45 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.2" x 8.0"

Customer Reviews

Helpful

This book helped me look at some of my own situations in a new light and I almost cried when I realized that I had been sending some very negative messages without ever intending to to my children. It taught me to see how I would react if someone was sending those very same messages to me -- and I found out that I would have probably reacted the same as my children did (defiantly, angrilly). The author reminds us that our kids are not perfect and we can't expect perfection from them at all times. And that kids who are harder to be around can cause us to tense up even when they just walk into the room (a nonverbal sign that we don't mean to send, but the kid probably picks up). I have done better around my kids and have had at least two or three encounters that really, really tested me and would have sent me through the roof in the past, but I was able to get through with great results without screaming. Of course, I still slip up, I'm definitely not perfect, but the book says that is all part of the learning process. And I know I've gotten better and hope to keep on working on what the author has taught me.

Gives practical advice and ready solutions for parents

I enjoyed reading this book. As parents know, keeping your cool and not losing your temper when faced with challenging issues of child management, can be very difficult. Dr. Makarowski gives valuaable pointers to parents on effective self-management while trying to manage your children. After reading this book, parents will better understand their child's behavior as well as their own reactions to discipline. Practical advice such as recognizing what triggers parental anger, how to relax and setting appropriate goals and expectations in the home give ready solutions for parents.

A practical and helpful book for parents

How To Keep Your C.O.O.L. With Your Kids is a practical helpful book for parents. It offers parents practical advice on dealing with their children that is based on solid psychological principles.Guy T. Doyal, Ph.D.,

Excellent resource for parents and family therapists,

American Journal of Family Therapy, Spring 1997 "...there has been a flood of `pop psychology' books intended to give parents the key for unlocking solutions for children's behavioral problems....To this day, however, there seems to be a lack of materials that are both authoritative (academically) and uniquely adaptable (pragmatic) for the child and family system. The book, How To Keep Your C.O.O.L. With Your Kids by Lou Makarowski, meets the challenge. The author provides many practical suggestions to help parents develop skills for better management of their children. Part One is directed at the parent...Part Two is child centered...There are straight forward, simple lists of suggestions. This book is clearly for the lay reader. Nevertheless, the family therapist can make use of it in two ways. First, it's readability and practicality make it exceptionally useful for offering to parents as an adjunct to therapy. Second, the academically sound contents will enrich the therapist's understanding of how to help behavioral problem children, especially through the family system.

Excellent, helpful, informative, easy to understand,

This book helps families learn a new way to interact with difficult children. Mostly it shows parents how to interact with children period. It gives insightful tips on controlling your own life and thus what happens to all others around you. When this is accomplished, anything is possible. It also gives resources available to families in need of them. Mostly hope and a new way of approaching the old issue of parenting. By Controlling Your Own Life, the world is seen through different eyes. More relaxed, more insightful, focused, confident, self-assured, and thus positive, capable, etc. A must read for families with difficult children, children period. It gives you advise on navigating the education maze and how to handle road blocks.