Help! I'm a Military Spouse--i Want a Life Too!: How to Craft a Life for You As You Move With the Military

by Holly Scherer, Kathie Hightower & Holly Scherer, Kathie Hightower, et al.

Often military spouses say: "I love my spouse, I'm super proud of - and support - my spouses' service to our country. . .and still I struggle with how to make this military life work for me." This book helps you learn how to make this life work for you as you support your spouse. This is not a book about being the perfect military spouse. It's about what you can do to make this military life work well for you based on who you are as a unique individual...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1419607103
• ISBN13: 9781419607103
• Release Date: January 2005
• Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
• Length: 192 Pages
• Weight: 0.95 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.5" x 5.8"

Customer Reviews

The Definitive Self-help Book for Military Spouses

Authors Kathie Hightower and Holly Scherer have crafted a military family resource book that comes at a time when this kind of self-help literature is greatly needed. Their book "Help! I'm a Military Spouse - I want a Life Too" is the best book of its kind on the market today. There is no military spouse or family that could not use their book of advice. This book takes on real concerns and issues that face modern military families. Although this book deals mainly with issues related to female spouses (Only 6% of military spouses are male) I think some of the information contained could apply to both genders. This book is about taking positive actions as a way to make the most out of the situations a spouse finds in the military environment. I would think that reading this book and taking one of their workshops (that they give throughout the country) would enable the reader to become more self-reliant and to gain more control over some other parts of their lives. (Obviously, military families have little control over huge parts of their lives - so in their own personal spheres of influences it becomes important to follow their heart and find all the possibilities where ever they may be.) The book is written well by the authors who take us a journey of learning with antidotes and small personal comments from the authors to highlight some of the points being made in the book. This book is well edited and is laid out to make it easy for people looking for information. This book is an upbeat, proactive approach to life and I fully endorse the message and advice they dispense through out the pages. This is a MWSA 5 Star Rated Book! It is a must buy book for all military families! There is much gold within these pages for spouses to find! This is best book of its genre - period!!! MWSA's 2006 Silver Medal Award for Reference

Practical tips and a sense of humor - a very useful combination

There has never before been a book like this for military spouses. Fifty years ago, as an Army bride, my husband presented me with a copy of a book called The Army Wife. It was full of such intimidating, impossible rules that I nearly hit him with it. Now comes Help! I'm a Military Spouse just crammed full of help, encouragement and practical tips. Just a glance at a few of the hundreds of headings - "Start your Heart's Desire File" "Get Help for Your Dreams" "Ask for Help, Offer Help, Accept Help in these Challenging Times." All of these tell ou that here is a chance to stretch out and reach for a life that is uniquely your own while still living up to the challenges of a military life. Holly and Kathie, just one question. Where were you fifty years ago, when I needed you?

Step-by-step instructions

This book is based on the workshops that Hightower and Scherer give to military spouses. I attended one of their workshops and it was great, but the book is even better. Like the workshop, it's giving me step-by-step instructions in how to make my life more exactly what I want it to be -- everything from how to reduce stress through little practices like taking a deep breath before answering a ringing phone or lying on the floor for 15 minutes with my legs up the wall (it really helps lighten up a tough day!)... to how to get my finances in order... how to make sure my volunteer efforts help me as well as others... how to identify what my dreams are and set goals to achieve them... I may not have much control over my husband's career and where it takes us, but this book reminds me that I still control the rest of my life. And since it's a book, I can refer back to it again and again. It's also filled with resources, lists of other helpful books, and websites. I'm a military spouse but this book would be useful to anyone married to a partner with a demanding career.

Help I'm a Military Spouse

Excellent Book for anyone-Military Spouse or someone who just wants or needs an action plan for their life. Personal accounts that make this book real life for everyone. Highly recommend!

Applicable to all women

I'm not a military spouse, yet I can still relate to this book. I appreciate Hightower and Scherer's mental, spiritual, and physical (wholistic) type of approach to well-being and happiness. This book is an accessible read, and offers practical advice on how to live your best life, and be a positive force amongst our global community. We don't take enough time to self-reflect, and this was the push I needed to start thinking about my passions and dreams, my identity in general. The journal exercises, and life experiences of the authors, are also helpful.