Happily Ever After Divorce: Notes of a Joyful Journey

By Jessica Bram

While more than half of all marriages end in divorce, joy and happiness does not have to die with it. Happily Ever After Divorce: Notes of a Joyful Journey gives a seldom touched-on view of divorce -... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0757307582
• ISBN13: 9780757307584
• Release Date: January 2009
• Publisher: Hci
• Length: 254 Pages
• Weight: 0.65 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.6" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

The most realistic piece of literature about going through Divorce and the final outcome - Happiness

I finished the book last night and I must say this book is Pulitzer! I have never in my 39 years of life read such realistic literary literature, ever! This book, "Happily Ever After Divorce" is an exact replica of my life right now! The only difference between this author's married life/divorce and mine is I'm African American, LOL! The only part in her book that I have not experienced is the mother-in-law bonding after the divorce, I filed in August 2009 and my mother-in-law and I still have not spoken yet. After reading the book, I hated coming to the last page, it was that good! I feel much better about my circumstances now after reading it and I'm encouraged to go to the end. I do see the light at the end of the tunnel and it looks bright!! Anyway, the climax in this book is on pg. 128 and it describes my whole 12 year marriage and why I filed for divorce, in the first paragraph it reads," So despite my otherwise normally independent nature, I tended to be uncharacteristically complacent about allowing myself to be led around.......The relaxation afforded by not having to find my way around seemed well worth the surrender of autonomy"....... Pulitzer!

Very helpful--even long, long after--

It was inspiring to encounter this memoir of/by Jessica Bram. Her story immediately walked off the page and into my thoughts and feelings. I was divorced many years ago, but I still wrestle with issues around the breaking up and making up of relationships. There i was in the coffee shop with her, doing the emails, making friends with the one I used to love, and finding I too could go on. One of the intriguing things about the book was the framing of each of the issues/moments in a separate chapter. I loved the titles--it meant i could easily return to a particular episode I wanted to re-experience. When i started the book, I began to read fast and furiously; it was as if I had been offered a sumptuous feast, lots of courses, none of which I could resist. But then I realized that the moments were even better when I slowed down and savored them, "consuming" only one--at most two--chapters at one reading session. It occurs to me as I write this, that Jessica's story would be especially good reading for folks who meet to share dilemmas about relationships.

A joy of a book !

What a breath of fresh air this book was ! As a recently divorced 58-year old woman (of 2 grown daughters), I was struck by how similar our feelings and experiences were throughout the whole divorce process - feelings about our children, our ex-husbands being incredible fathers, trying to keep our kids whole and healthy throughout the process and everything else she captures so beautifully in her book. I was actually happy I read it AFTER my divorce, rather than while I was going through it. It allowed me to reflect on where I've been, where I want to go and how I might get there - at a time when my feelings were not so raw. I didn't want this warm & tender book to ever end, and I will definitely re-read it. It was such a comfort to me.

Wonderfully inspiring

A friend gave me a copy of this book and I could not put it down. It is the story of Jessica Bram's divorce and how she made a new life for herself and her sons and discovered that life after divorce can become a time of discovery and fulfillment. While the story of her divorce was quite painful to read, she does not sugar coat her struggles with her ex-husband nor her struggles with becoming a single parent. It is written with warmth, humor, and compassion. This is not a how-to book, but rather a this-is-how-it-can-be book, and as a middle-aged woman finding herself divorced after a long term marriage I find the book to very affirming and postive. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is already divorced, going thru a divorce, or is facing a divorce. It is a gem of a book.

A must-read for women going through divorce

It was the title that first attracted me: Happily Ever After Divorce. As someone who once bought a decorative pillow with the words "Happily Ever After" embroidered in demure cream, and tossed it on my marital bed hoping that the pillow would make that wish could true, I keenly felt the pain of thinking that my own impending divorce would kill my dreams of happily ever after. Jessica Bram, a witty and honest writer, is here to tell you that there's a lot people aren't telling you about your divorce, and most of it is actually pretty good news. Ms. Bram doesn't sugar-coat the pain, fear and confusion that come through the process of tearing one home into two. In there are all the gut-wrenching legal battles that feel so much like being under seige, the guilt at what she's doing to her children, the anger at the man who was supposed to love her forever now turning into an enemy. But the resounding message throughout each lovely chapter is, "I made it, and so can you." It is a genuinely uplifting book. By the time you get to the chapter "Friends With My Ex-Husband," you feel like although it can be dark during a divorce, there is light at the end of the tunnel. If you're expecing a "how-to" of happy divorce, this isn't the book for you. It's a series of stand-alone first-person essays about one woman's experience. But in many ways, it's even better than a how-to. It's certainly more personal, touching and well-written. You feel like you're talking to a sister or old friend who has gone through what you're going through - and is here to let you know that everything will be okay. At times hilarious (the chapter on eclipse-chasing in Europe with her young boys is not to be missed), often poignant but mostly hopeful, Happily Ever After Divorce is a book you'll want to read again and again and pull out in your darkest nights. By the time the author finds love again in "Then Comes Love" (you hoped all along that she would, but were not always sure, since she seems to really love being single), you feel like someone has shone a light on the map, and you no longer feel you're in alien territory alone. This book is an engaging, charming and fast read. I recommend it highly.