Get a Life, Then Get a Man: A Single Woman's Guide

By Jennifer Bawden

Book Overview

The key to enjoying the single life is to lead a full and rewarding existence.

For dating to be successful, single women must first acquire the most attractive quality--a fun, happy, and productive life. From setting goals, nurturing friendships, and being kind to oneself, Jennifer Bawden provides both practical and inspirational guidance for women who desire a whole new outlook on their singlehood. Once they have gained esteem and support, readers are ready to apply Bawden's frontline tactics for meeting men. From the first approach in a crowded room and strategies for "the call back" to handy icebreakers for the first date, Bawden shows how to proactively pursue a variety of interesting prospects.

Get a Life, Then Get a Man inspires women to take back their dating destinies--to get confident in their actions and smart about their choices. In the process, they'll discover that being single can truly be fun, free, and satisfying.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0452281350
• ISBN13: 9780452281356
• Release Date: January 2000
• Publisher: Plume Books
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.15 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 7.9"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Get this book then get a man

This is my first time on here reviewing a book and I specifically came on this site today because of this one in particular. Love of self is absolutely necessary before you can expect to love you as a person and this book goes into more depth of details and even includes a wonderful screening process on pages 76-80 where you can check off certain characteristics and make a list of those you desire in a boyfriend/mate. I also used it as a process to see what I see in myself as a woman and had my friends check off the qualities that they see in me and those I need to work on. That is something that Jennifer Bawden recommends you do in order to see what qualities we need to work on as a person in order to contribute to a relationship without being blinded by our faults. I could probably write here all day but I do want to say that I always go back for further reminders that I need to remember because sometimes (not always) we lose a sense of ourselves in our relationships because we have certain expectations....this book shows that you are responsible for the relationship and have a choice....never have expectations and you will always be pleasantly surprised....oh, and dont jump into a serious relationship first without taking it slow. Good Luck!

Fantastic read for modern women

This book was a fantastic alternative to the usual dating advise books. As a person that normally makes fun of dating books, the title caught my eye automatically. The book gives helpful advise to promote your own self assurance in this world far before trying to rely on a man to get everything for you. I highly recommend this book to woman of any age. I have given it as gifts to graduating teens and business women alike.

Thoughtful, insightful, accurate

I must admit, I approached this book with some cynicism - after all, so many of the so-called self-help books on this subject are little more than the lame bleatings of middle-aged soccer moms who've suddenly discovered Prozac. This tract is different. Laced with sublety of thought and incisive wit, Jennifer Bawden cuts to the heart of what it means to be a modern women with her own hopes, dreams and above all, ambitions. It is a practical and straightforward manifesto on how to not only define what you want, but also on how to get it.Clearly articulated and incisive, this book is catalyst for any woman to develop courage and desire to truly change her life and I have no hesitation in giving it my unqualified recommendation.

Truly spoken!

How often do women hear from their mothers and other females when they are going to get married or why don't you have a boyfriend? And what are the reasons for getting a man? In my past and present experience, I have listened to relatives and friends tell me I need a man when I am trying to build a life for myself. A man is no guarantee that your life will be complete. I am in my twenties and living with my family. I don't have a boyfriend and am not in the position of looking for one. It seems to me that the only way to get a life is to get a man instead of being on your own. As women, we need to build our own lives before even allowing a man to enter ours. I am glad that Ms. Bawden has written a book for the single female who is looking for love without having to lose herself.

Definately a Life!!!!

This book is not just about "getting a man". In fact, that is one tiny commodity you can acquire from taking in the information Ms. Bawden speaks of. I don't mean merely reading the book and thinking about the suggestions offered. I'm refering to a project of allowing the words to become saturated in the brain, to become soaked-up like a sponge, and to be utilized in life. This is no "Rules" dating book. This book has integrity and a passion for life. It is truly about changing the way you look at yourself, gaining confidence, and not settling for anything less than what you deserve.Ms. Bawden is eloquent in her quest to inform us all on life and men. You can't get a man without getting a life first! Quality is key! Who doesn't want to live a life of quality?